What is Your Message?

 We are in the thick of a cold, dark winter, and that is not conducive to a bright and happy mood for most people here. Add to that already glum feeling the news headlines, personal life matters, and it's quite a stew of ick to stir. I've been trying hard not to get the icks of winter, but my body has been giving me some severe punches, which also batter my mind while just trying to stay afloat. It's a lot to just get out of bed, show up and be a person some days. My heart, mind, and body just feel heavy and some days there seems to be no end to the threatening weights. Psalm 42:11 Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. 

Knowing this, it would seem that we would be a little kinder, more compassionate, and more understanding toward our counterparts–other humans, that is. But alas, it seems they can become our everlasting punching bags as we swing out in frustration over our own "stuff". How did we get here anyway? Can anyone relate? If so, keep reading. We are headed somewhere warmer! Psalm 31:1-2 In you, O Lord, I have taken refuge; let me never be put to shame; deliver me in your righteousness. Turn your ear to me, come quickly to my rescue; be my rock of refuge, a strong fortress to save me. 

In my exasperation, I said aloud just today that I needed a sweatshirt with a certain message on the front, and an accompanying one on the back. I was being snarky, of course, as I often am when at the near end of my emotional rope. I try to use humor when all else seems to fail me. I know that the answer is not to warn others to "do" something, but that I instead change my own expectations of them and add a heaping amount of grace to them and to myself. "Love one another" is not easy and no one ever said it would be. Some people don't even like themselves. Some days I am one of those people! John 16:33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." 

I was reminded this morning of the actual solution when receiving my daily soul breakfast from my mentor, Norm: 

"I have spent much of my Christian life engrossed in the book of Proverbs. The wisdom is beyond profound logic and the pragmatism is not found in any handbook. 1 Kings 4:29 And God gave Solomon wisdom and understanding beyond measure, and breadth of mind like the sand on the seashore, 30 so that Solomon's wisdom surpassed the wisdom of all the people of the east and all the wisdom of Egypt. 32 He also spoke 3,000 proverbs, and his songs were 1,005. The very wisdom that Solomon was given through the Divine gifting is still alive in Solomon's words he recorded. This is why when you read Proverbs and apply what the Holy Spirit gives your heart while you are dividing the Word of anointed truth–you become part of God's wisdom and understanding. Solomon's wisdom did not die with him, but rather God has kept it alive within the proverbs. A proverbial container of holy understanding is ours to dive into. We have access to how and what Solomon had through the graceful gift of wisdom and understanding that God gave him."

How we make it through daily struggles that threaten our peace combined with things that are happening around us, topped with the news headlines that shake our beliefs in humanity, feels hopelessly out of reach in our own strength. It is a lack of wisdom and holy understanding to think that we have to handle all of these impossible situations in our own power. I believe this is one of the reasons why we lash out in frustration; we feel a lack of control and we begin to feel insecure about everything. We start in with negative self-talk, shame, blame, regret, confusion, and all the rest of the ick ingredients that make up the stew. We think the solution is in something else–but it never satisfies no matter how many different things we experience, because it is our soul that needs the renewal or the change inside. Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. If nothing else I say sinks in, let this get into your heart. When we are walking around full of Christ in our hearts, we are in good company already. 

One thing I've had to begin to really sink my Christian teeth into is that my faith isn't mature enough, because I'm hearing myself say some things that don't reflect a complete dependence on Christ, and this heavy weight I feel is my own self trying to bear it all. As a self-professed "control freak," it is hard for me to let go of the need to be in control of my own world because in trusting others, things don't always go so well. Knowing that even with God things might still not go so well, and may even go in a direction I don't like, it's even harder for me to say, "Sure God, I'll let you handle that, even though I have no input on this at all. No worries." (Hey look–another sweatshirt design!) Psalms 46:10 Be still and know that I am God. That is a very short verse, but it's powerful and one that I hear myself repeating. It's okay to be a growing Christian and not have all the answers all the time. I hope I keep learning my whole life! 

 How well do we "keep (be) still and know"? Are things going great? No! Have they gotten better? No! Easier? No! In fact, much worse and so much harder and hello, Lord, are you even out there seeing any of this going down? (That one comes in purple, all sizes). It is in our trials that we see how our character is developed after we endure hard times. Romans 5:3-4 Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance character; and character, hope. Well, we just got told that suffering will, in fact, be part of the deal. It's going to be used for our good, but do I really want more character just now? It's funny how we want to skip right to the wisdom and understanding but forget how Paul (former persecutor of Christians turned Christian Missionary) and Solomon (asked for and received his wisdom in a dream) got theirs. 

What is it we truly want? Are we just afraid to ask for it or go through the hardship to get it? Growth isn't always what we think it's going to be. We have to go through the rough stuff to get to the smooth stuff. Just ask anyone–especially your mentor. I will guarantee they had a lot of rough patches before they grew into the godly person who guides you spiritually. James 1:12 Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. 

My faith and my feelings can go on a never-ending sparring match and knock me right off course OR set me straight! That's a common issue of mine. Not being in the Word of God enough gives too much room for self-propelled worry and fix-it strategies that just end in more frustration. The reason my mentor's passage helped me today is because it reminded me that what is going to help me is to continue to grow in God's knowledge and wisdom and gain His understanding. What will this lead to? Peace...more peace. Less of  me, more of God. (Now, that's a great sweatshirt). Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. I can stand on solid ground. No more wrestling!

When I can KNOW and understand more of God's heart, then my mind will expand "like the sand on the seashore", and my wisdom about what to do in these situations will grow. I will no longer be shaken and stirred up like the ick stew that's been bubbling. I will no longer be taken down so easily by the weights of the world and even those near me, because the strength of God is within me, carrying it for me. Bad things will always happen. Imperfect people not only run the world, but we imperfect beings live in it too. It's unavoidable. But I don't have to live in a constant state of unrest like I have been. That feeling of waiting for the "next shoe to drop" or worrying about "what if" when I accidentally see a news headline. (Here's a sweatshirt slogan for all of you watching headlines all day: "Stop watching the bad news and pray.") 1 Timothy 2:1-2 I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession, and thanksgiving be made for everyone–for kings and those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.

My dear friend Norm says to me, "Pray for God's will." That always puts a little scare in me, but it scares me because I believe it. I know God's will is the last word, and it will be okay, no matter what, because it's His plan.  Matthew 6:10 your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. 

Not only will God's wisdom and understanding protect me, but He will enable me to extend grace and give love in place of the anxiety, fear, and anger that has come so easily to me in these past few years. Proverbs 1:33 But whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm. My body will thank me as well, when this peace overcomes to heal and calm the illness inside me. 

I have a responsibility just like anyone reading this. We are in control of very few things in this life, but the one thing we can control is ourselves. What we put into our minds, our hearts, our bodies, and what comes back out to others. The things we are thinking make their way into our hearts and out of our mouths. Matthew 12:34-35 You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. The things we are eating show up on our bodies. The hate we are feeling comes out in the way we relate to or even avoid others. We were not created to be divided, but to love one another. I know it seems kind of weird to say, but it's hard to love Jesus and take care of the hearts of people when we are too busy hating them and the world. Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all wrongs. That's quite a dichotomy, and yet so simple and descriptive of humanity throughout all the ages. Proverbs 16:32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city. What a difference it would make to see humility overtake the world. Well, I guess we'll find out one day, won't we?

That was a lot to say, but if someone says they've never felt contempt or hate for someone, I may ask them if they're Jesus, because in this fallen world, it's a pretty normal human feeling, considering some of the evil we have witnessed and some have experienced firsthand. Proverbs 29:4 By justice a king gives a country stability, but one who is greedy for bribes tears it down. Humans are not an easily healed bunch. We're all in need of forgiveness and we are all in a position to forgive someone. That puts us all in a pretty vulnerable position with each other if we accept that and actually use it to heal our relationships instead of tear them apart. 

I've realized that not only do I need to extend forgiveness, but I also need to pray for those I may never meet, and for those I've met but do not wish to be reconciled with. A heart without a grievance must feel so light and peaceful, right? Colossians 3:12-13 Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 

So perhaps my assignment will be spending more time reading and less time dreaming up clever sweatshirt designs and ruminating over the things that are upsetting my life– particularly those I cannot control. It is my responsibility after all, to do and be the things that God wants of me, and not be so focused on the things and actions I can't control. 

This world and its problems and tragedies can overwhelm me, and seem to add to the problems of daily life. It can be easy to get sidetracked. In this time of great uncertainty, my security needs to rest in the One who has all the answers. To remember to pray for God's will is something Norm frequently reminds me, and it is very important, because it removes our need to "fix" or tell God what we want the outcome to be, and replaces it with trust in His perfect plan, knowing that even if the circumstances look dire, He is using the difficulty to bring about something good. 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes on not what is seen, but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 

God's plan is the ultimate big picture, and not all of the pieces will make sense to us. When we can ask God for wisdom like Solomon did, he will give us the discernment to begin to respond in a way that helps us to see how He wants us to pray and what small piece He wants from us. While we wait, we can ask for His peace. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. I don't write this lightly as if all things can be tied up with a Christian bow. Most days, the ends of my ribbon are flying loose and free as I learn more and more about who God is and how much I still don't know about the One who intentionally created me. 

We all need love and God IS love. (Maybe that's the sweatshirt message of the day) May we be good to one another as we navigate this world and our places in it, carrying the presence of God within our hearts. Blessings. 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 

Galatians 5:22-23

Where To Begin

 Where to begin....

I've been absent but present in my own world, and it seems that world has been spinning at a speed I can't control. We lost Steve's dad in November, a couple of weeks before Thanksgiving, and with that, it seems more and more loss trickles in. There are always secondary losses when you lose a parent or anyone significant in the family. I've experienced this, and it doesn't get any easier. Grief doesn't get any easier either. I've said it with every loss–pain is pain. It's indescribable and there's no easy way around it. Even with God, grief is a difficult process. Psalm 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. My own father passed 8 years ago today. I am grateful he knew the Lord and I miss him every day. 

As I've gotten older, I've had this feeling that time is slipping away and my grasp on this time is getting looser and looser. It's a feeling that words fail to touch. Try as I may, I can't seem to describe it, only to say I close my eyes at night and all of these thoughts and memories become overwhelmingly claustrophobic. They swirl around like a film in flash mode, stream out my eyes in hot pools, and thus begins a nostalgic journey I can't escape. Friendships, families, neighborhoods, children–everything that once felt secure and safe now feels like it could change or be gone in the blink of an eye–because it can and it is. I suppose change kind of fits on a grief scale of sorts. We can grieve the way things used to be, grieve lost friendships, relationships, old places, good times had, maybe even our old good health and fun activities. With change comes a lot of unexpected emotions. 2 Peter 3:8 But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. Yes, you can grieve things that haven't passed away, that is for sure. They are suspended in some kind of weird time phase that no longer exists, yet stay in our hearts, longing to thrive again. I would apologize for that weird moment of melancholy, but I do write poetry, so it's just my nature. 

"Everything is changing." I hear that phrase so often. I've come to believe it's a phrase filled with fear–because what we've come to know has become unpredictable.  We don't like the unknown, and the unknown is usually the enemy.  I said just the other day that I've become hypervigilant–always on edge and waiting for the next "thing" to happen. I wasn't always like this. I used to be more carefree, didn't I? Didn't it used to seem like things were always the same for the longest time? I think that's the problem with relying on those rose-colored glasses we wear when looking at the past. Things may always seem better or happier, but if you picked me up and plopped me back in high school in the 80's, I wouldn't truly be as happy as I say I would be! Maybe just for a millisecond, but I would beg to come right back! I have to say there are days I look back on that did seem much less strife-filled, and I'm wondering if there will ever be a return to that or if this feeling just gets worse. It's kind of a case of "is it me (my perception) or is it the world (really this bad)?" Well, God tells us not to entertain the past. Isaiah 43:18-19 "Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. 

God is telling us if we are fixated on the past, we won't see the new things or new ways ahead. We are going to trip on all the old stuff. This is why it is so important for me to keep myself grounded in the present time. One exercise I've recently begun doing is saying, "I'm all right, right now." Regardless of what happened yesterday and what could happen tomorrow, at this present moment in time, I am okay. I am grateful, I am cared for, and I am loved. I am thankful for sweet memories, and grateful for today. I will not worry about tomorrow. It's not as easy as it sounds for someone who thinks and overthinks as much as I do! Hence, the reason I have to set my mind to do it. 

There is a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus. –Blaise Pascal 

My faith in God is what keeps me looking ahead, even when these fears threaten me in the middle of the night. It's what frees me when I've gotten stuck in a heavy, melancholic loop of thinking and can't sleep. I've crushed those thoughts with, "But thank you, Lord, that I knew that person....you put that person in my path, my neighborhood, my life, my family...if even for a short time. Thank you...Thank you for working this problem out even if I can't see the solution yet..." Colossians 2:7 rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness. When I answer my momentary sadness, confusion or grief with GRATITUDE, it gets replaced with a comforting peace that I cannot find on my own. 

 Not only can we have our own "stuff" we are dealing with, but we can sometimes  feel the "stuff" of the people we love, and the stuff of who I call the "unknown" in my prayer journal–the world, people I see out and about but don't know, and things happening around me that need prayer. I've learned that I can't carry the baggage of others, so to speak,  but I can care and give it to God to carry it. 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you. This is why watching the news or scrolling social media can become a problem for people who think they have to "fix" everything. Instead of taking on the burdens of the world that we can't possibly carry, we have to pray and ask God which one (if any) of those things He appoints us to help in, and give the rest over to Him. It's sometimes a little hard to admit that we aren't picked for every cause (cuz egos, right?), but it's also a relief to know that we don't have to fix every problem that we see. We can pray about it instead, trusting that God has the solution, because He does. 

"Worrywart, anxious, hypervigilant.." They all have the same thing in common–fear. I know I'm not alone in having bouts of fear. This is why "fear not" is mentioned so many times in the Bible! 2 Timothy 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. If I am fearful, it's not coming from God!  Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. If I become fearful, I am to look to God for my strength and help. If I'm thinking I have to do it all, be it all, fix it all, no wonder I can become an anxious, hypervigilant mess! It's true that even as we pray for help, bad things can still happen because we live in a fallen world full of imperfect people. But we have to believe that even through some of these bad things, good will come, and our purposes will prevail, because that is what He tells us. Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose. All things–even the tough things we go through. Most importantly, though we may feel alone, we won't BE alone if we trust the Lord with the circumstances we go through in life. 

These are tough things to talk about, in light of what others are going through in this big world full of troubles. I know there are plenty of people who are suffering worse than me. I've always said that though someone else has it worse than us, it's okay to express your pain, and I say that still today. God cares about our pain, no matter what that pain is. We can always go to Him with our concerns. God does not compare your details to those of another. That's a human failing. Acts 10:34 In truth, I see that God shows no partiality. Rather, in every nation whoever fears him and acts uprightly is acceptable to him. God is omnipresent–present to all in every place and time. Psalm 145:18 The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. 

Think about this–everything really is changing. 

Here's the good news: God told us we were going to change, and even hoped we would! 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! He told us to expect change: Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven; a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot...And that even if we face challenging times, He gives us reassurance: Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you", declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Best of all, we know that God never changes. He is always the same! Malachi 3:6 "I the LORD do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed. God is the One we can count on to never change and to get us through these changes in our lives. 

Part of the fear of change is that we begin to lose hope. I believe it's because we tied our hope into the things that are fleeting or don't last forever. We put our faith in things or in people who we believe are going to be our saving grace or the one thing or person that can change the direction of things. I see this in politics a lot, but it can also be seen in our relationships or in the things we purchase. Psalm 118:8 It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in humans. We have to be really careful when resenting change that we aren't part of the problem. Have we put too much of our hope and faith and reliance on our relationships and things and then found ourselves empty when those things begin to disappear? I think that's a warning to us all to be very aware of the source of our comfort or what we consider to be a "solution." Matthew 6:19-21 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. May we fill the God-shaped vacuum in our hearts with Him and Him alone, and trust Him with the changes in our lives. When our hearts are full of God, we will be able to handle everything that comes our way-past, present, and future.