Well, we made it through another busy holiday season. Whew. Well, not quite. We invited a family over for New Year's, but we're keeping it simple. That's good because I feel like I'm coming down with a cold. Sigh..nothing's ever easy, is it?
We celebrated Miss Reenie's 11th birthday 2 days after Christmas. It's always tough on her...she never knows what she wants because she says she gets what she wants for Christmas and doesn't want anything else. She doesn't want cake because we just had all those cookies. So, we took her to the mall, intending on getting her a cover for her Nook, and a pair of jeans from her favorite store. A little window shopping at the mall resulted in her changing from jeans to a funky clunky pair of tennis shoes. Oh well, she's happy, so we're happy too! Usually I make her a special birthday dinner of her choice, but because our trip at the mall took so long, we ended up eating Yummy Japan. Some birthday dinner! Luckily I had made her requested cherry cheesecake that morning or I would have really been mad at myself! The grandparents came over for cheesecake, ice cream and slushies, then both grandmas beat us all in a game of "apples to apples". I can't believe our "baby" is eleven already. It makes me a bit sad.
Christmas went well....my sis ended up with the flu, so she was unable to make it for Christmas eve. My nephew and his fiance were able to make it, and since my brother is staying with my parents temporarily, he was there too. Mom made lasagna and some other yummies. During the white elephant, my coveted Charlie brown Christmas tree was stolen! Obviously my brother doesn't know what a fan of Charlie I am, does he?? Or maybe he does....Somehow it ended up in my mom's stocking on Christmas morning....mom sure thought that was sweet, so I guess I can live without it.
Christmas day for the girls was wonderful. Natalie was ecstatic about her electric guitar, and Serena loves her Nook. Most of all, we enjoyed a wonderful breakfast of waffles made on our new waffle maker from Grandma and Grandpa. Grace is always interesting at our table with two pre teens, but Christmas morning grace is the best! We love being able to hang around in our jammies all day before it's time to move on to the next party.
Natalie was able to take her new guitar to G and G R's house, and Uncle John decided to sing to whatever she could play. It was quite a concert. I feel like I should have paid to get in! Or maybe be paid to sit there?? John's a great guy, but not much of a singer after all. Natalie loved the attention, of course!
I was a grump for most of December, I have to admit. I was really struggling with a lot of things. Being too busy, spending too much money, being pushed into more things than I wanted to do...it made for a miserable me at times. That will not happen again. It really kept me from doing some of the more important things I would have normally done. I was able to pull it off without too many people knowing what a scrooge I was but even that became a chore after awhile.
One of the things I'm going to do before I hang up my new calendar is write myself a letter in the month of November. I will include all of the things that are most important to me and my family. Whatever doesn't make the list will not go on the December calendar unless it is super important and involves helping someone in need.
Happy New Year, friends! May you be blessed abundantly in the new year and always.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Meaningful Merry
It's Christmas season, and I'm trying to pull it together! I always say I'm not going to ruin the beautiful Christmas season with stress, but somehow I fail at some point! Well, truly, life is busy enough, and then you add MORE shopping, MORE spending, MORE parties, MORE baking, MORE MORE MORE. Who can take it? I get so mad because I keep saying "It's about Jesus! Why can't it JUST BE ABOUT JESUS?? Why Oh why does it gotta be so busy and full and stressful and crazy and expensive???" Then I do my Charlie Brown "AAAAAAARGH!!!" Thank Goodness the "Linus speech" comes to mind often enough to remind me of why we celebrate Christmas in the first place!
It IS a beautiful season and it IS about Jesus. Period. No "buts".
It is also a time to honor Him by giving back to those we love. Our gifts represent His gift. His ultimate Gift to us! I love to give, I really do. I wish I was a gabillionaire so I could do all the things that are in my head and heart to do one day. However, God has enabled me to do things for people that have nothing to do with money, spending, wrapping, or shopping. Whew!
So this year was not spent scurrying around decorating everything in sight. Nope. I decked only a little bit of the halls this year. I baked NOT ONE cookie, unless you count Allison's famous chocolate chip cookies with the Christmas sprinkles on top. I made NO candy. No fudge. Nothing!! I barely got my Christmas cards done today. I just HAD to take a photo of the girls to put on it, because that's what people enjoy. I had to make an extra run for ink, stamps, and an extra box of cards. Who knew we knew all those people?? Of course, you just can't receive a card without sending one back, right?? Oh, the horrors! I'm still learning, folks....
I am NOT done shopping either.In fact, I saved my husband and mom for last. I have NO wrapping done. To top it off, we wait for pay day (4 days before Christmas) so we can shop with cash. Ugh. But isn't that better than overextending ourselves? Yes, but it's more stressful at the time too!
All the plans I made for December were mysteriously thwarted by something else. Illness, helping someone else, unexpected event, etc...It was strange how things kept getting in the way of trying to accomplish something for Christmas. My Christmas spirit dwindled and dwindled as it neared December. I wondered what was wrong with me. Was I turning into a scrooge?? No. I think God was trying to show me that I was getting too caught up in the worldly view of Christmas.
After all, I have every reason to be joyful. I have the Lord, for my main source of joy and love, right? Then I have a husband that I cherish, treasure, love and adore! I have 2 beautiful, loving, sweetheart daughters who make me laugh every day. I have a nice home, a wonderful squishy old dog who is still here! I have so many blessings that they far outweigh any gloom and doom I could muster.
Could God be trying to tell me something?? I think so too. Please learn from this big ole mistake maker. Please put HIM first. Then all else will fall into place. God didn't need our stinking cookies to place His Son in that manger for US. None of those things get Him any closer to us. His love. Our love. His Gift. Our gifts to Him.
Merry Christmas. And that's that!!
It IS a beautiful season and it IS about Jesus. Period. No "buts".
It is also a time to honor Him by giving back to those we love. Our gifts represent His gift. His ultimate Gift to us! I love to give, I really do. I wish I was a gabillionaire so I could do all the things that are in my head and heart to do one day. However, God has enabled me to do things for people that have nothing to do with money, spending, wrapping, or shopping. Whew!
So this year was not spent scurrying around decorating everything in sight. Nope. I decked only a little bit of the halls this year. I baked NOT ONE cookie, unless you count Allison's famous chocolate chip cookies with the Christmas sprinkles on top. I made NO candy. No fudge. Nothing!! I barely got my Christmas cards done today. I just HAD to take a photo of the girls to put on it, because that's what people enjoy. I had to make an extra run for ink, stamps, and an extra box of cards. Who knew we knew all those people?? Of course, you just can't receive a card without sending one back, right?? Oh, the horrors! I'm still learning, folks....
I am NOT done shopping either.In fact, I saved my husband and mom for last. I have NO wrapping done. To top it off, we wait for pay day (4 days before Christmas) so we can shop with cash. Ugh. But isn't that better than overextending ourselves? Yes, but it's more stressful at the time too!
All the plans I made for December were mysteriously thwarted by something else. Illness, helping someone else, unexpected event, etc...It was strange how things kept getting in the way of trying to accomplish something for Christmas. My Christmas spirit dwindled and dwindled as it neared December. I wondered what was wrong with me. Was I turning into a scrooge?? No. I think God was trying to show me that I was getting too caught up in the worldly view of Christmas.
After all, I have every reason to be joyful. I have the Lord, for my main source of joy and love, right? Then I have a husband that I cherish, treasure, love and adore! I have 2 beautiful, loving, sweetheart daughters who make me laugh every day. I have a nice home, a wonderful squishy old dog who is still here! I have so many blessings that they far outweigh any gloom and doom I could muster.
Could God be trying to tell me something?? I think so too. Please learn from this big ole mistake maker. Please put HIM first. Then all else will fall into place. God didn't need our stinking cookies to place His Son in that manger for US. None of those things get Him any closer to us. His love. Our love. His Gift. Our gifts to Him.
Merry Christmas. And that's that!!
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Snow Days and Eagle Moms
Yay Yay It's a SNOW DAY! First on the agenda....SLEEP IN!! Second...Take my time drinking coffee! Third....Drink more coffee since I don't have to drive to school! Fourth...mix up some cookie dough and fill the kitchen with chocolatey chippy yummy goodness....Fifth...go back to bed! Since I can't eat the cookies, I'll give them away! (I'm on a good track with my weight loss!!)
Well, I hope to achieve at least one or two of those, but it usually doesn't turn out that way! The girls and I are all making homemade gifts, so we will probably spend a good part of the day getting to work on those. I would tell you mine, but occasionally Natalie sneaks in on my blog while at school. I guess she's just making sure I'm respecting her privacy! I do try, but there are so many things I would love to tell you, just to make you laugh and feel better about yourself as a mom! :)
Let's just say the "pre-teen and tween" years are getting a bit difficult. I'm thinking "CONVENT" and "moving to the mountains". I'm finding out what I'm made of as a mom. Believe me when I tell you that you'll have no idea what kind of mom you are until your values are being pushed and tested to their very limits! Will you give in? Will you hold strong? Only you will know!
All I know is I want to be the best mom I can be, and it's NOT easy, by any means. I feel like an eagle sometimes. Always watching, ears pricked, wings ready to spring, feet ready to claw into the enemy! Mostly, always protecting and trying to survive. Yup, I'm an eagle. There is no room for chickens at the top, my friends.
Well, I hope to achieve at least one or two of those, but it usually doesn't turn out that way! The girls and I are all making homemade gifts, so we will probably spend a good part of the day getting to work on those. I would tell you mine, but occasionally Natalie sneaks in on my blog while at school. I guess she's just making sure I'm respecting her privacy! I do try, but there are so many things I would love to tell you, just to make you laugh and feel better about yourself as a mom! :)
Let's just say the "pre-teen and tween" years are getting a bit difficult. I'm thinking "CONVENT" and "moving to the mountains". I'm finding out what I'm made of as a mom. Believe me when I tell you that you'll have no idea what kind of mom you are until your values are being pushed and tested to their very limits! Will you give in? Will you hold strong? Only you will know!
All I know is I want to be the best mom I can be, and it's NOT easy, by any means. I feel like an eagle sometimes. Always watching, ears pricked, wings ready to spring, feet ready to claw into the enemy! Mostly, always protecting and trying to survive. Yup, I'm an eagle. There is no room for chickens at the top, my friends.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Favorite Christmas....
Song.... Childhood: The Gene Autry Christmas Album
Now: The Christmas Song (Chestnuts roasting...)but I love many of them!
Cookie.....childhood: Mom's sugar cookies
Now: Mom's sugar cookies!
Candy.... childhood: cinnamon rock candy and homemade peanut butter cups
now: chocolate dipped pretzels
TV special or movie... childhood: Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer
now: Charlie Brown Christmas (can't beat Linus' speech!)
Present.... childhood: my baby doll, Rachel and Tinkertoys
Now: family and homemade things from my girls
Memory...Childhood: Huge happy family gatherings
Now: Natalie and Serena coming down the stairs in their matching pajamas
Also...going into labor for Serena on Christmas night!
Tradition... childhood: eating homemade peanut brittle while decorating the tree, going to church and getting to hold a candle!
now: Watching Charlie Brown Christmas with the girls while we decorate the tree, opening one gift on Christmas Eve, and many many more!
Thank you, Lord, for the best gift of all....Your Son!
Tell me....what are your favorites??
Now: The Christmas Song (Chestnuts roasting...)but I love many of them!
Cookie.....childhood: Mom's sugar cookies
Now: Mom's sugar cookies!
Candy.... childhood: cinnamon rock candy and homemade peanut butter cups
now: chocolate dipped pretzels
TV special or movie... childhood: Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer
now: Charlie Brown Christmas (can't beat Linus' speech!)
Present.... childhood: my baby doll, Rachel and Tinkertoys
Now: family and homemade things from my girls
Memory...Childhood: Huge happy family gatherings
Now: Natalie and Serena coming down the stairs in their matching pajamas
Also...going into labor for Serena on Christmas night!
Tradition... childhood: eating homemade peanut brittle while decorating the tree, going to church and getting to hold a candle!
now: Watching Charlie Brown Christmas with the girls while we decorate the tree, opening one gift on Christmas Eve, and many many more!
Thank you, Lord, for the best gift of all....Your Son!
Tell me....what are your favorites??
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Deckin' the Halls
Steve got most of the outdoor lights up last weekend and they look great! We had hoped to finish today, but we had too many things going on. Oh well. The girls and I finished up the tree today! I was so thankful for them last weekend when they hauled up the branches, put the tree together and fluffed the branches--all 9 feet of it! No easy task, for sure. I'm just not able to run up and down those stairs 22 times, so it was such a blessing to have their help!
They are heading to the grandma's houses this week to help them assemble their trees as well. They both enjoyed helping them get ready for Christmas last year and the grandmas really appreciate the help. I can't believe how grown up they are!
Our girls are strict with traditions, which I find so endearing. We HAVE to do everything the SAME!! Same time, same order, same everything! It's so cute. I love that they feel such a strong connection to Christmas and our celebrations. It will surely stick with them for as long as they live.
Well, better get back to deckin' the halls, folding the laundry, making the biscuits, and getting ready for the coming week. Whew...I'm tired already!
They are heading to the grandma's houses this week to help them assemble their trees as well. They both enjoyed helping them get ready for Christmas last year and the grandmas really appreciate the help. I can't believe how grown up they are!
Our girls are strict with traditions, which I find so endearing. We HAVE to do everything the SAME!! Same time, same order, same everything! It's so cute. I love that they feel such a strong connection to Christmas and our celebrations. It will surely stick with them for as long as they live.
Well, better get back to deckin' the halls, folding the laundry, making the biscuits, and getting ready for the coming week. Whew...I'm tired already!
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Frankenmuth Fun.. a nice long post...get a cup of coffee first
Today was our annual family trip to Frankenmuth! This year was even better, with the addition of my brother Jeff and his wife, Lisa, their two boys, and my sister and her husband. We had much to celebrate, including dad's birthday and his 5 year cancer-free anniversary!
We started out with a CRAZY trip to Bronner's, in which my ADD kicked in and I basically walked around in circles! There were so many people there, it was ridiculous. Ridiculous, I'm telling you!
We then headed over to Zehnders for the famous chicken dinner, which was really super delicious! We did a little shopping, then stood in a very long freezing line to take a carriage ride around town. We stuffed all 6 of us in that carriage, in which the horse driving had one question, "What's this....an elephant??" Seriously, we put a lot of weight in that carriage! It was a lot of fun, looking at all the lights and cracking jokes about how scrunched in we were. For some reason, my quirky comment about a moist towelette got some big laughs. Just say "moist towelette" and you just may laugh. Try it. Cheap fun, I say.
Now, you may be wondering just who was watching my precious Sophie while we were gone. My brother, Tim, was not feeling like joining us on the trip, so he volunteered to come to my house and watch our sweet doggie. He hand fed her, carried her outside, and kept her company all day. He really has a heart for animals, and I don't think he realizes what a gift that is! It was such a blessing to be able to leave the house for longer than 3 hours and not worry about her. It's been so long since we've been able to go anywhere without worrying about her first. I was feeling guilty about him not coming with us, and he said, "really, I just can't eat all that salmonella (chicken), and I don't like to be cold!" okay, good enough.
We have come a long way as a family in the past few years. I credit God and only God for all of the good that has happened. I am still in awe at how He has worked out some of the most difficult issues. I am still waiting for some things to change, and for some people to come around.
Things may be a bit light at Christmas time with a couple of the family members, but my dad has always maintained that whoever wants to be here will be here and whoever does not, should not. I'm all for peacemaking and being forgiving, but I can't change another person's perception of the world. I can't make someone believe the way I believe. I can't pound it into their heads, though I wish that would work!
Chistmas time for me is all about love. Loving those who are easy to love, and loving those who are more difficult to love. That's what God does for us. That's what he intended when he gifted us with His Son. Am I always easy to love? Probably not 100% of the time! I know, I can't believe it either!
So, if you love someone who doesn't act loving to you in return, if you have been mistreated because they are mad at someone close to you, if you've been talked about by a family member in a negative way....here's what you do...
You let God take care of it! Be the light you are made to be, love who will let you in, and pray for those who aren't ready to love you yet. Chances are, they don't love themselves, and that's sad. Remember, you have a relationship with God. They don't. THe goal is to help them get there, not point out all their flaws to them!
Sadly, sometimes it just doesn't change. The family member you pray for, the one you try to be kind to, the one you know you have to tiptoe around....they just won't come around. I've learned that I can't let it change who I am with other people. I can't let it affect my trust level with others. I certainly shouldn't spend too much time analyzing why why why. Family relationships can be so complicated! I can remember really questioning God about why he chose some of these people to be in my family. We are nothing alike! We don't like the same things. We don't live the same way. We don't agree on politics, religion, the weather! It's crazy, but I'm just curious enough to watch what God is doing and where He plans to take this crazy family of mine. It's a ride, for sure, and getting more interesting every day!
Be blessed with whoever (and whatever, in come cases) shares your DNA!
We started out with a CRAZY trip to Bronner's, in which my ADD kicked in and I basically walked around in circles! There were so many people there, it was ridiculous. Ridiculous, I'm telling you!
We then headed over to Zehnders for the famous chicken dinner, which was really super delicious! We did a little shopping, then stood in a very long freezing line to take a carriage ride around town. We stuffed all 6 of us in that carriage, in which the horse driving had one question, "What's this....an elephant??" Seriously, we put a lot of weight in that carriage! It was a lot of fun, looking at all the lights and cracking jokes about how scrunched in we were. For some reason, my quirky comment about a moist towelette got some big laughs. Just say "moist towelette" and you just may laugh. Try it. Cheap fun, I say.
Now, you may be wondering just who was watching my precious Sophie while we were gone. My brother, Tim, was not feeling like joining us on the trip, so he volunteered to come to my house and watch our sweet doggie. He hand fed her, carried her outside, and kept her company all day. He really has a heart for animals, and I don't think he realizes what a gift that is! It was such a blessing to be able to leave the house for longer than 3 hours and not worry about her. It's been so long since we've been able to go anywhere without worrying about her first. I was feeling guilty about him not coming with us, and he said, "really, I just can't eat all that salmonella (chicken), and I don't like to be cold!" okay, good enough.
We have come a long way as a family in the past few years. I credit God and only God for all of the good that has happened. I am still in awe at how He has worked out some of the most difficult issues. I am still waiting for some things to change, and for some people to come around.
Things may be a bit light at Christmas time with a couple of the family members, but my dad has always maintained that whoever wants to be here will be here and whoever does not, should not. I'm all for peacemaking and being forgiving, but I can't change another person's perception of the world. I can't make someone believe the way I believe. I can't pound it into their heads, though I wish that would work!
Chistmas time for me is all about love. Loving those who are easy to love, and loving those who are more difficult to love. That's what God does for us. That's what he intended when he gifted us with His Son. Am I always easy to love? Probably not 100% of the time! I know, I can't believe it either!
So, if you love someone who doesn't act loving to you in return, if you have been mistreated because they are mad at someone close to you, if you've been talked about by a family member in a negative way....here's what you do...
You let God take care of it! Be the light you are made to be, love who will let you in, and pray for those who aren't ready to love you yet. Chances are, they don't love themselves, and that's sad. Remember, you have a relationship with God. They don't. THe goal is to help them get there, not point out all their flaws to them!
Sadly, sometimes it just doesn't change. The family member you pray for, the one you try to be kind to, the one you know you have to tiptoe around....they just won't come around. I've learned that I can't let it change who I am with other people. I can't let it affect my trust level with others. I certainly shouldn't spend too much time analyzing why why why. Family relationships can be so complicated! I can remember really questioning God about why he chose some of these people to be in my family. We are nothing alike! We don't like the same things. We don't live the same way. We don't agree on politics, religion, the weather! It's crazy, but I'm just curious enough to watch what God is doing and where He plans to take this crazy family of mine. It's a ride, for sure, and getting more interesting every day!
Be blessed with whoever (and whatever, in come cases) shares your DNA!
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Request
I've been asked to help arrange for a group of drivers for the friend who was injured in the car accident, so since most of my readers know and love her, I am asking you first...
Her main driver is not comfortable driving in snow as she is from furter south, so we need some fill in drivers in case she is unable to drive.
The drivers would need to take her to appointments and down to see her husband, who will be hospitalized for quite some time.
I just know that you will be blessed by this experience if you are able to help out! There will be more info in the church bulletin. You know me, I try to keep things kind of quiet here, so I have to be vague. Those who know her best know what they need to know!
Thanks in advance!
Her main driver is not comfortable driving in snow as she is from furter south, so we need some fill in drivers in case she is unable to drive.
The drivers would need to take her to appointments and down to see her husband, who will be hospitalized for quite some time.
I just know that you will be blessed by this experience if you are able to help out! There will be more info in the church bulletin. You know me, I try to keep things kind of quiet here, so I have to be vague. Those who know her best know what they need to know!
Thanks in advance!
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Hug Blessing
At the "Night in Bethlehem" event at church tonight, blessings were in abundance, but my favorite one came in the form of a hug.
One of the children involved in the accident I mentioned previously was able to attend the event with some friends of the family. I teared up as I saw them walk in, surprising myself with that reaction. I was just so grateful to see them walk in!
I was able to make my way over to talk to the girls and their baby brother, knowing one girl likes to be hugged and one would rather not be pawed upon by weirdos such as myself!! So, I gave the one girl a hug and told her she still looked so beautiful, even with a nasty bruise on her face. She smiled a big smile and reached up to hug me back. What a great hug!! To think that life could have been taken so easily.....makes me speechless.
Anyway, she walked up to me later and invited us to come over and visit with her, as she is pretty bored. Serena is a year older, but they like to pal around, so we will definitely take her up on it. Serena and I will have to come up with some fun things to do with them while they wait for things to get back to normal.
Why does it take an accident like this to make me appreciate this family and these great kids?? How many more people am I taking for granted? How much of my life do I take for granted, because I expect tomorrow to be like today? Wow. I haven't been on the ball at all.
So, Christmas is right around the corner, and I'm praying for this family to spend a healing Christmas together! Please join me in that request.... thank you!
One of the children involved in the accident I mentioned previously was able to attend the event with some friends of the family. I teared up as I saw them walk in, surprising myself with that reaction. I was just so grateful to see them walk in!
I was able to make my way over to talk to the girls and their baby brother, knowing one girl likes to be hugged and one would rather not be pawed upon by weirdos such as myself!! So, I gave the one girl a hug and told her she still looked so beautiful, even with a nasty bruise on her face. She smiled a big smile and reached up to hug me back. What a great hug!! To think that life could have been taken so easily.....makes me speechless.
Anyway, she walked up to me later and invited us to come over and visit with her, as she is pretty bored. Serena is a year older, but they like to pal around, so we will definitely take her up on it. Serena and I will have to come up with some fun things to do with them while they wait for things to get back to normal.
Why does it take an accident like this to make me appreciate this family and these great kids?? How many more people am I taking for granted? How much of my life do I take for granted, because I expect tomorrow to be like today? Wow. I haven't been on the ball at all.
So, Christmas is right around the corner, and I'm praying for this family to spend a healing Christmas together! Please join me in that request.... thank you!
Monday, November 29, 2010
Be Blessed
Today I helped prepare the church for the 2nd annual "Night in Bethlehem", which will take place this Wednesday night. The moment I arrived, my joyful mood was turned to sadness when I heard that one of our church families was involved in a serious car accident on Sunday. Thankfully, the family of 5 is alive and expected to make a full recovery. Still, I couldn't help but think of how the 3 kids reacted when this accident occurred and injured both of their parents right before their eyes. How scary it must have been to see daddy going off in a helicopter, and mom in an ambulance. How tragic it would be to not be sure your kids are okay. Sponge that I am, I just absorbed all of what they must have felt.
I also felt gratitude that the accident didn't claim any of their lives, especially those 3 children. I felt a great need to be of help to them however I can. I hope they allow me and others to care for them so they can see the blessing they are to us.
Anyway, hug your family just a little tighter. You never know what's around the corner. Be blessed this holiday season with the feeling of gratitude for what and who you have. Be ready to serve so you can bless others with your grateful heart!
And most of all, please pray for this family. I won't mention their name and I don't really have to. God knows who they are! Thanks!
I also felt gratitude that the accident didn't claim any of their lives, especially those 3 children. I felt a great need to be of help to them however I can. I hope they allow me and others to care for them so they can see the blessing they are to us.
Anyway, hug your family just a little tighter. You never know what's around the corner. Be blessed this holiday season with the feeling of gratitude for what and who you have. Be ready to serve so you can bless others with your grateful heart!
And most of all, please pray for this family. I won't mention their name and I don't really have to. God knows who they are! Thanks!
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Good Stuff
Natalie came home from school a couple of weeks ago, talking about what happened in her devotions group at lunch. She was going on about the Book of James and why they chose to study that....who was in it....when I finally stopped her and said,
"What did you just say?? Nat,that is SO cool!"
So, this group of kids, 2 boys and 3 or 4 girls, decided that on Fridays, they would have "Jesus Freak Friday", doing a study on the book of James, and prayer time. They use part of their lunch hour instead of going outside to hang out with friends. They invite kids to come each week, and while some will come, several turn them down because it's just "not cool". Fair enough, Jesus wasn't all that "cool" to some either. She takes it all in stride. Her answer to that response was, "Guys, we better pray for them."
I continue to be speechless over her spiritual growth over the past couple years, almost since the day of her baptism! She told me something changed in her that day, and I have seen it. I guess you can go on about your kids' grades, their athletic ability, and even their manners, but I am really most pleased that they love the Lord and want to please Him.
Steve and I really wanted to reward the kids' efforts to win others over for Christ, so we offered to provide full size candy bars to all the kids who show up for the study each Friday. It's not bribery, but just incentive to keep meeting together. One of the kids was quite hopeful. He said, "It's not that I think your parents are poor or anything, but that's going to get pretty expensive." Now that is Faith!!
So, if you feel inclined, please keep the kids' study group in your prayers. They are being teased by other students, but the real need is for those who are teasing to be changed by what they see!
"What did you just say?? Nat,that is SO cool!"
So, this group of kids, 2 boys and 3 or 4 girls, decided that on Fridays, they would have "Jesus Freak Friday", doing a study on the book of James, and prayer time. They use part of their lunch hour instead of going outside to hang out with friends. They invite kids to come each week, and while some will come, several turn them down because it's just "not cool". Fair enough, Jesus wasn't all that "cool" to some either. She takes it all in stride. Her answer to that response was, "Guys, we better pray for them."
I continue to be speechless over her spiritual growth over the past couple years, almost since the day of her baptism! She told me something changed in her that day, and I have seen it. I guess you can go on about your kids' grades, their athletic ability, and even their manners, but I am really most pleased that they love the Lord and want to please Him.
Steve and I really wanted to reward the kids' efforts to win others over for Christ, so we offered to provide full size candy bars to all the kids who show up for the study each Friday. It's not bribery, but just incentive to keep meeting together. One of the kids was quite hopeful. He said, "It's not that I think your parents are poor or anything, but that's going to get pretty expensive." Now that is Faith!!
So, if you feel inclined, please keep the kids' study group in your prayers. They are being teased by other students, but the real need is for those who are teasing to be changed by what they see!
Sunday, November 21, 2010
A Thankful Heart is A Happy Heart
Thanksgiving is just a few days away, but I think every day is Thanksgiving. I don't wait for a turkey-laden day to know what I am grateful for, do you??
I think we should just rename it "Stuff your face day", since come on, you know all you care about is pie. Yes, you do! That and who can make it to the couch first!
My mom is so funny, in a not so funny way. She always plans dinner for the middle of the football game. Not before. Not after, but right in the middle. It always drove Steve nuts, but you just don't mess with mom and her ideas. I guess she wants the emphasis to be on dinner and not on football. Crazy woman, huh? She's been cooking for days, up early sticking her hand in a cold bird's behind, I guess she can call the shots about dinner.
We have a few smokers in our family, and of course, they can't smoke in the house, so they stand outside and freeze!! I have no sympathy for them. I hate smoking and I tell them so. I'm sure I'm the favorite sister and aunt, aren't I?? Oh, not really, but at least my lungs are clean. And I'm younger. Much younger.
Thanksgiving goes really well unless the marshmallow topping on the sweet potatoes catches on fire again. Now, that is hilarious, although the smoke alarm and hearing aid combo---not that funny. Well, kinda. Almost as funny as the time the pepper lid came off while seasoning the gravy and mom and I had to put the gravy through a sieve. Someone at the table had the nerve to compliment the gravy and we busted out laughing. Crazy women, all of us.
My favorite part of these family get togethers is when one of my siblings brings up those lovely childhood memories. Funny how everyone has a different memory of the same event, isn't it? Well, they're all liars and I was a perfect child. Enough said.
We don't fight over the wishbone because it could easily turn into hand to hand combat. It's bad enough when there's one last piece of pumpkin pie. U-G-L-Y!! Of course we all fight over who "gets" to do the dishes. Mom never wants help, and my sister used to take her up on it and go take a nap. I have a solution to that. All the women will retreat to the living room, put their hand in the waistband of their tight pants, flip on a Hallmark movie, belch and make the men do the dishes. Yeah!!
I don't know about you, but I can't wait for Thanksgiving. I just love family get togethers. Just a second, I am laughing so hard I'm in tears and I can't see! Okay, I'm kidding a little. I do like some parts of getting together, but really, I just love the food. And the pie. Okay, and the family time.
I am thankful for my family, warts and all, and for the time we are able to get together, tease each other, complain, and fight over the last piece of pie. I am most grateful for mom, who sticks her hand in that gross turkey, pulls out his little "lunch" and cooks it up for the dogs. That woman just rocks.
Happy Stuff Your Face Day, and Happy Thanksgiving!!
I think we should just rename it "Stuff your face day", since come on, you know all you care about is pie. Yes, you do! That and who can make it to the couch first!
My mom is so funny, in a not so funny way. She always plans dinner for the middle of the football game. Not before. Not after, but right in the middle. It always drove Steve nuts, but you just don't mess with mom and her ideas. I guess she wants the emphasis to be on dinner and not on football. Crazy woman, huh? She's been cooking for days, up early sticking her hand in a cold bird's behind, I guess she can call the shots about dinner.
We have a few smokers in our family, and of course, they can't smoke in the house, so they stand outside and freeze!! I have no sympathy for them. I hate smoking and I tell them so. I'm sure I'm the favorite sister and aunt, aren't I?? Oh, not really, but at least my lungs are clean. And I'm younger. Much younger.
Thanksgiving goes really well unless the marshmallow topping on the sweet potatoes catches on fire again. Now, that is hilarious, although the smoke alarm and hearing aid combo---not that funny. Well, kinda. Almost as funny as the time the pepper lid came off while seasoning the gravy and mom and I had to put the gravy through a sieve. Someone at the table had the nerve to compliment the gravy and we busted out laughing. Crazy women, all of us.
My favorite part of these family get togethers is when one of my siblings brings up those lovely childhood memories. Funny how everyone has a different memory of the same event, isn't it? Well, they're all liars and I was a perfect child. Enough said.
We don't fight over the wishbone because it could easily turn into hand to hand combat. It's bad enough when there's one last piece of pumpkin pie. U-G-L-Y!! Of course we all fight over who "gets" to do the dishes. Mom never wants help, and my sister used to take her up on it and go take a nap. I have a solution to that. All the women will retreat to the living room, put their hand in the waistband of their tight pants, flip on a Hallmark movie, belch and make the men do the dishes. Yeah!!
I don't know about you, but I can't wait for Thanksgiving. I just love family get togethers. Just a second, I am laughing so hard I'm in tears and I can't see! Okay, I'm kidding a little. I do like some parts of getting together, but really, I just love the food. And the pie. Okay, and the family time.
I am thankful for my family, warts and all, and for the time we are able to get together, tease each other, complain, and fight over the last piece of pie. I am most grateful for mom, who sticks her hand in that gross turkey, pulls out his little "lunch" and cooks it up for the dogs. That woman just rocks.
Happy Stuff Your Face Day, and Happy Thanksgiving!!
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Parenting Is Not For The Weak
We made it through another week! Not that I look at life as just making it from one week to the next, but last week felt like a war zone in a parenting sort of way.
My kids were great. Nat had a great basketball game, Serena had awesome remarks at her PT conferences, and all A's to boot! Their attitudes were great, they were listening, and being respectful.
It's not my kids that get me all riled up. It's other parents! Without being too specific, let's just say that it's not always the kids who make it difficult for other kids to stand up for what is right.
When I send my daughters on sleepovers, I expect the parents to be respectful. That includes not watching movies we don't approve of here, or allowing my kids to watch movies they are not ready to watch. I do expect them to clear any movie choices with me first. Yes, I do! Just as I would clear my choices with them. Odd behavior? It seems to be to some. It really is just normal for me. Even further, I would expect that if I said, "No, we don't approve of that movie that has language, nudity, and crude behavior", that the parent would 86 that movie, not ask that my child come later after the other kids get to see it, and even be a little embarassed that they didn't know what they were about to watch. In one week, we saw one parent do the right thing by asking first, and saw yet another go in another direction.
It left one of my daughters thinking, "Is seeing that movie more important than me being there?" Good question. Kids make these mistakes all the time, but parents? I expect them to stand for something good. In fact, shouldn't we all be standing together??
I needed only to remind her of many verses in the Bible, which gave her the basis of why we say no to those things. I felt for her, as being left out, singled out, or the "uncool" one is never fun! I reminded her that as long as God is watching, we will seek to please Him, not anyone else. We'll try to do it politely and quietly, but it will be done.
I already see the rewards of standing up for what is right, and I hope the girls will too. I know it isn't easy to be "the only one", because I've been in that position as a kid and as an adult. However, God blesses those who do right by Him, and that's our purpose first and foremost.
We made it through one test and there will be plenty more. Hang on to your kids, parents. Don't be afraid to parent them. Don't worry about being their buddy. Believe me, they don't want you to be their friend. They want you to be their safe place, and a safe parent sets clear limits. Don't be afraid to stick to your guns and do what is right by God and your family!! No matter what the cost.
My kids were great. Nat had a great basketball game, Serena had awesome remarks at her PT conferences, and all A's to boot! Their attitudes were great, they were listening, and being respectful.
It's not my kids that get me all riled up. It's other parents! Without being too specific, let's just say that it's not always the kids who make it difficult for other kids to stand up for what is right.
When I send my daughters on sleepovers, I expect the parents to be respectful. That includes not watching movies we don't approve of here, or allowing my kids to watch movies they are not ready to watch. I do expect them to clear any movie choices with me first. Yes, I do! Just as I would clear my choices with them. Odd behavior? It seems to be to some. It really is just normal for me. Even further, I would expect that if I said, "No, we don't approve of that movie that has language, nudity, and crude behavior", that the parent would 86 that movie, not ask that my child come later after the other kids get to see it, and even be a little embarassed that they didn't know what they were about to watch. In one week, we saw one parent do the right thing by asking first, and saw yet another go in another direction.
It left one of my daughters thinking, "Is seeing that movie more important than me being there?" Good question. Kids make these mistakes all the time, but parents? I expect them to stand for something good. In fact, shouldn't we all be standing together??
I needed only to remind her of many verses in the Bible, which gave her the basis of why we say no to those things. I felt for her, as being left out, singled out, or the "uncool" one is never fun! I reminded her that as long as God is watching, we will seek to please Him, not anyone else. We'll try to do it politely and quietly, but it will be done.
I already see the rewards of standing up for what is right, and I hope the girls will too. I know it isn't easy to be "the only one", because I've been in that position as a kid and as an adult. However, God blesses those who do right by Him, and that's our purpose first and foremost.
We made it through one test and there will be plenty more. Hang on to your kids, parents. Don't be afraid to parent them. Don't worry about being their buddy. Believe me, they don't want you to be their friend. They want you to be their safe place, and a safe parent sets clear limits. Don't be afraid to stick to your guns and do what is right by God and your family!! No matter what the cost.
Monday, November 8, 2010
News You Can't Use
Yesterday after church I started coming down with some kind of bug. Actually, for 2 days prior I'd been feeling a bit "off", but figured it was because I hadn't been sleeping well again. So, I'm just starting to feel better...sigh.
Here is the "Neighborhood News" from the past week:
**Nattie had her first club basketball game last Thursday night. They played 2 really tough teams. They're 8th graders, and boy, a year makes a difference. Not only that, but these girls have been playing a lot longer. The girls didn't seem too discouraged until the last game, when they were exhausted and way behind in points. It was a good experience for them, but they played harder than they've ever had to and it was tough out there. Nattie scored in the first game, which gave her lots of confidence!
**Patty came up from Vicksburg on Saturday to attend a crop with me. I was glad, because no one else I invited showed up, as usual!! There were a few other people there, none of which I knew, but they were a fun group and they encouraged me to come back. We actually went in early so we could scrap longer, and it worked out well. We made a mid-day run to JoAnn's for supplies. So, I have resolved the fact that no one wants to scrapbook (except for Jenn, who had plans that day), so I will just do it with this group as long as they plan them. I guess that's the best way to find people to scrap with, right? I guess you can tell I'm tired of begging.
**On more important fronts, my dad got his 5 year cancer free bill of health today!! Praise the Lord for his healing! Today is my parents' anniversary (42 years!) as well. It sure is a better anniversary gift than the bad news they received on this day back in '05. It was the first Thanksgiving that we weren't together. Mom and I spent Thanksgiving in the hospital with my dad. Since we knew all of the tumor had been removed and no other cancer was found, it was the best cafeteria meal we'd ever shared!! A party is being planned in his honor!
**Sophie's health has improved!! She is back to her sneaky self, but still needing a bit of assistance. She has some challenges, for sure, but she seems happy and pain free. As long as that remains, so will she. I have a heart for all animals, and the biggest reason is that they are such a source of unconditional love. There is nothing I can do to change her affection for me!
**I worked Children's Church on Sunday, and although I was feeling a bit "off", I thoroughly enjoyed it. I keep wondering if God wants me to do something with kids, as being with kids makes me happier than anything else! Before my health started to bug me back in May, I had planned on doing some babysitting here at home. I have a heart for kids too for the same reason as animals. They love you no matter what!! Since having babies isn't going to happen, I suppose I'll have to love everyone else's babies! Not a problem.
**About 7-10 deer are visiting us every day. Mostly does and young ones. They were sparring a bit the other day. I wish we could feed them again. I used to love watching them come in to eat every night. We've had about 27 turkey hens coming as well. One day I looked out and they had invaded the swing set. Three on top, 2 on the sides, and 3 in the sand box. Then one hen dropped from the top of the swing set into the trampoline and couldn't get out. Steve was on his way to Detroit, so I called to ask him how to get a turkey out of the trampoline. After he stopped laughing.....actually, I just walked out on the deck and she flew back out. They really are comical to watch. It's really fun to watch the squirrels crawling in and out of the pumpkins on the deck. You really can't beat this kind of entertainment, ya know? I love living the wild life!
**This week we have PT conferences, Physical therapy (Natalie's OTHER knee is acting up now!), practice, 2 games, 3 birthdays....the list goes on.
**I witnessed a beautiful thing tonight. As I was not feeling well and my medicine hadn't started working yet, I was just sitting in the living room quietly. Natalie started playing "I wanna Hold Your Hand" on guitar, and Serena started singing the lyrics. I'm not sure what blessed me more, the fact that they have a natural knack for music (something I've always hoped for), or if it was the way they were making such beautiful music together as sisters. They are so close and good to each other most of the time. (something else I'd always hoped for). When people say God will give you the things you lacked, they're not kidding. I may not have gotten them when I asked, or even when I thought it was time, but God has given me these things through others, and I see it in my girls all the time.
And THAT is news you can USE!!
Here is the "Neighborhood News" from the past week:
**Nattie had her first club basketball game last Thursday night. They played 2 really tough teams. They're 8th graders, and boy, a year makes a difference. Not only that, but these girls have been playing a lot longer. The girls didn't seem too discouraged until the last game, when they were exhausted and way behind in points. It was a good experience for them, but they played harder than they've ever had to and it was tough out there. Nattie scored in the first game, which gave her lots of confidence!
**Patty came up from Vicksburg on Saturday to attend a crop with me. I was glad, because no one else I invited showed up, as usual!! There were a few other people there, none of which I knew, but they were a fun group and they encouraged me to come back. We actually went in early so we could scrap longer, and it worked out well. We made a mid-day run to JoAnn's for supplies. So, I have resolved the fact that no one wants to scrapbook (except for Jenn, who had plans that day), so I will just do it with this group as long as they plan them. I guess that's the best way to find people to scrap with, right? I guess you can tell I'm tired of begging.
**On more important fronts, my dad got his 5 year cancer free bill of health today!! Praise the Lord for his healing! Today is my parents' anniversary (42 years!) as well. It sure is a better anniversary gift than the bad news they received on this day back in '05. It was the first Thanksgiving that we weren't together. Mom and I spent Thanksgiving in the hospital with my dad. Since we knew all of the tumor had been removed and no other cancer was found, it was the best cafeteria meal we'd ever shared!! A party is being planned in his honor!
**Sophie's health has improved!! She is back to her sneaky self, but still needing a bit of assistance. She has some challenges, for sure, but she seems happy and pain free. As long as that remains, so will she. I have a heart for all animals, and the biggest reason is that they are such a source of unconditional love. There is nothing I can do to change her affection for me!
**I worked Children's Church on Sunday, and although I was feeling a bit "off", I thoroughly enjoyed it. I keep wondering if God wants me to do something with kids, as being with kids makes me happier than anything else! Before my health started to bug me back in May, I had planned on doing some babysitting here at home. I have a heart for kids too for the same reason as animals. They love you no matter what!! Since having babies isn't going to happen, I suppose I'll have to love everyone else's babies! Not a problem.
**About 7-10 deer are visiting us every day. Mostly does and young ones. They were sparring a bit the other day. I wish we could feed them again. I used to love watching them come in to eat every night. We've had about 27 turkey hens coming as well. One day I looked out and they had invaded the swing set. Three on top, 2 on the sides, and 3 in the sand box. Then one hen dropped from the top of the swing set into the trampoline and couldn't get out. Steve was on his way to Detroit, so I called to ask him how to get a turkey out of the trampoline. After he stopped laughing.....actually, I just walked out on the deck and she flew back out. They really are comical to watch. It's really fun to watch the squirrels crawling in and out of the pumpkins on the deck. You really can't beat this kind of entertainment, ya know? I love living the wild life!
**This week we have PT conferences, Physical therapy (Natalie's OTHER knee is acting up now!), practice, 2 games, 3 birthdays....the list goes on.
**I witnessed a beautiful thing tonight. As I was not feeling well and my medicine hadn't started working yet, I was just sitting in the living room quietly. Natalie started playing "I wanna Hold Your Hand" on guitar, and Serena started singing the lyrics. I'm not sure what blessed me more, the fact that they have a natural knack for music (something I've always hoped for), or if it was the way they were making such beautiful music together as sisters. They are so close and good to each other most of the time. (something else I'd always hoped for). When people say God will give you the things you lacked, they're not kidding. I may not have gotten them when I asked, or even when I thought it was time, but God has given me these things through others, and I see it in my girls all the time.
And THAT is news you can USE!!
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Don't Call Me!
Everyone who knows me knows my disdain of all things political. So, you probably would guess my annoyance level at election time! This time was no different, of course, with more smear ads, excessive phone calls all day, and signs blocking my vision at corners. If I hated politics then, none of those things won me over this time either. I'd rather have my teeth drilled without novacaine. Yes, really!!
I respect reality and truth, and find that politics is the direct opposite. Before you tell me who your favorite is and why they are so not like that, know that I will be rolling my eyes inside. Sorry. It's just that annoying for me. As I get older, I tolerate it less and less. Everyone has an agenda, and some stop at nothing to get it. Some are more concerned about winning than working. Some blow so much money on campaigns, it just makes me wonder just how many sick children or starving people that money could have served. Self-serving yes men and women. Ugh!! And they wonder why voter apathy exists.
Okay, enough of my own smear campaign. At least where that topic is concerned anyway. For several weeks, we were subjected to harassing phone calls by people with thick accents. They called at least 4 times a day, asking for a person who we don't even know. When I would tell them they had the wrong number, they'd hang up abruptly. However, if I let the machine pick up, they left names, numbers, and a message about a "package" or a "check" to pick up. I googled all the numbers and found that a few of them were reported by other people who were getting harassed as well. One of them was asked for money! I was extremely frustrated to say the least. I was so angry by their intrusion that I decided I was going to blow a whistle into the phone. I never got the chance. They stopped calling. We were so relieved, and I hope they don't call back again. This was going on at the same time as all the political phone calls. Talk about your acid tests. Yikes. I'm keeping my whistle by the phone, by the way.
I respect reality and truth, and find that politics is the direct opposite. Before you tell me who your favorite is and why they are so not like that, know that I will be rolling my eyes inside. Sorry. It's just that annoying for me. As I get older, I tolerate it less and less. Everyone has an agenda, and some stop at nothing to get it. Some are more concerned about winning than working. Some blow so much money on campaigns, it just makes me wonder just how many sick children or starving people that money could have served. Self-serving yes men and women. Ugh!! And they wonder why voter apathy exists.
Okay, enough of my own smear campaign. At least where that topic is concerned anyway. For several weeks, we were subjected to harassing phone calls by people with thick accents. They called at least 4 times a day, asking for a person who we don't even know. When I would tell them they had the wrong number, they'd hang up abruptly. However, if I let the machine pick up, they left names, numbers, and a message about a "package" or a "check" to pick up. I googled all the numbers and found that a few of them were reported by other people who were getting harassed as well. One of them was asked for money! I was extremely frustrated to say the least. I was so angry by their intrusion that I decided I was going to blow a whistle into the phone. I never got the chance. They stopped calling. We were so relieved, and I hope they don't call back again. This was going on at the same time as all the political phone calls. Talk about your acid tests. Yikes. I'm keeping my whistle by the phone, by the way.
Monday, November 1, 2010
I'm A "Working Mom" Too!
Oh, I heard that famous comment the other day....someone was telling me something (so vague, but it must be this way), and I heard those words, "Yeah, but I'M a WORKING mom." Well, I wonder what that makes me??
This mom runs her kids to school and home, to practices, friend's houses, events, church functions, doctor's appointments, and the like. I don't have a babysitter, launderess, cook, gardener, personal shopper, or driver. Because I don't have an outside job, people assume I have all kinds of time to do whatever I want! I stare at the same walls pretty much all the time. I have very little interaction with friends,as they have made the choice to go to work. So, it makes for a pretty uneventful life at times. I can only do so much cooking, baking, and cleaning before I totally forget what else I enjoy doing. Right now my life is about being a wife and a mom.
We live on one income. That's a job in itself! Trying to manage raising 2 kids and give them the best of two parents means certain things are not in my vocabulary. Most of those things are anything personal, such as nice new jeans, pretty highlights in my hair, or perfume. I have tremendous guilt about buying something for myself when I know my kids need something too. My mom was the best teacher of this concept. I dressed as cute as a bug, while my mom did not most of the time. She didn't begrudge that at all. I feel bad about it, of course, but I know exactly what she means. It's not that they have to have everything, I just don't want to get it first.
Now, before the term "martyr mom" comes into your mind, that's not me. This is my choice, to work at home, raising my family and taking care of my home. When Steve travels, I am here. We make a point to put personal activities aside in order to make memories with our kids. It's not always easy to do that. But what I've learned about this choice of mine is that none of it is about me. It's all about them and what I want for them one day.
My mom regrets being a working mom. She regrets not having quality time with me. Not only was she a working mom, but she had 3 other kids,sometimes 4, and trust me, it wasn't easy for her. While money was her reason for working, I think now she has a different perspective altogether, and she is my biggest encourager to stay home and keep it up. She knows that self-worth can sometimes get lost in parenting, that some women find it at work. Some women feed off their careers and feel nothing without them. Some work to get away from the kids! Some want to drive ridiculously expensive cars, and so quitting isn't an option. Unless you put it in perspective.
So, I'm not a working mom?? Oh, yes, dearie, I AM. Just like you.
This mom runs her kids to school and home, to practices, friend's houses, events, church functions, doctor's appointments, and the like. I don't have a babysitter, launderess, cook, gardener, personal shopper, or driver. Because I don't have an outside job, people assume I have all kinds of time to do whatever I want! I stare at the same walls pretty much all the time. I have very little interaction with friends,as they have made the choice to go to work. So, it makes for a pretty uneventful life at times. I can only do so much cooking, baking, and cleaning before I totally forget what else I enjoy doing. Right now my life is about being a wife and a mom.
We live on one income. That's a job in itself! Trying to manage raising 2 kids and give them the best of two parents means certain things are not in my vocabulary. Most of those things are anything personal, such as nice new jeans, pretty highlights in my hair, or perfume. I have tremendous guilt about buying something for myself when I know my kids need something too. My mom was the best teacher of this concept. I dressed as cute as a bug, while my mom did not most of the time. She didn't begrudge that at all. I feel bad about it, of course, but I know exactly what she means. It's not that they have to have everything, I just don't want to get it first.
Now, before the term "martyr mom" comes into your mind, that's not me. This is my choice, to work at home, raising my family and taking care of my home. When Steve travels, I am here. We make a point to put personal activities aside in order to make memories with our kids. It's not always easy to do that. But what I've learned about this choice of mine is that none of it is about me. It's all about them and what I want for them one day.
My mom regrets being a working mom. She regrets not having quality time with me. Not only was she a working mom, but she had 3 other kids,sometimes 4, and trust me, it wasn't easy for her. While money was her reason for working, I think now she has a different perspective altogether, and she is my biggest encourager to stay home and keep it up. She knows that self-worth can sometimes get lost in parenting, that some women find it at work. Some women feed off their careers and feel nothing without them. Some work to get away from the kids! Some want to drive ridiculously expensive cars, and so quitting isn't an option. Unless you put it in perspective.
So, I'm not a working mom?? Oh, yes, dearie, I AM. Just like you.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Joy
Yesterday I took Natalie and 3 of her close friends to the mall for the day. They didn't have school due to conferences, which I skipped because Nat got all A's!! Once in awhile, I just have to announce that. I'm just so proud of her! And to plug our school shamelessly, I have nothing but positive things to say about her principal, her teachers, and the staff. At first I was nervous about the 7th and 8th being integrated into the High school, but my fears were laid to rest. They have no interaction with the older kids, and they are walked back and forth by a teacher when they need to be in another area of the school. It really has been a good change after all and Nat loves the building. Pastor Shannon still stops in for lunch regularly, and she loves hanging around with "Shannie", as they've dubbed him.
Anyway, the girls are all dressing up together for the costume contest at school on Friday, and I am taking them "treating" for Halloween. It will be the first time Natalie is excited about going! I absolutely love her friends, and I really enjoyed spending the day with them. It's like having a few extra daughters, which I love!
So while life can be daunting and crazy at times, involving dog poo and other surprises, life can be beautiful and full of joy.
Like I said, finding peace and contentment no matter what. THAT is my ultimate goal, and with God's help, I will get there!!
Anyway, the girls are all dressing up together for the costume contest at school on Friday, and I am taking them "treating" for Halloween. It will be the first time Natalie is excited about going! I absolutely love her friends, and I really enjoyed spending the day with them. It's like having a few extra daughters, which I love!
So while life can be daunting and crazy at times, involving dog poo and other surprises, life can be beautiful and full of joy.
Like I said, finding peace and contentment no matter what. THAT is my ultimate goal, and with God's help, I will get there!!
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Life Adjustments
In the last decade, my life has changed quite a bit. I didn't notice it much, as it changed so gradually, but somehow, my kids grew up, I got older, and things just changed. Sometimes it hits all at once. The change in me, the change in our life, the change of our parenting, the loss of two close family members, and yes, the growing up of our babies. BAM! WHAMMO! KABLOOEY!! What the heck happened here??
I am slow to change, and it doesn't always serve me well emotionally. I tend to want to hold on a little longer, and sometimes it just feels like a slow band-aid removal. Sometimes I wish I could just rip and roll with it. Some things I can do that very well. Others are slow and painful! I don't want to wallow in grief, or be too resistant to change, so I try to blow through situations and feelings in hopes of a good outcome. What I've learned is that sometimes I avoid the fire, and what burns is the wait.
Dealing with things head on is something I believe in logically. However, it's not always that easy. My brother, fresh out of rehab, is living with his son, my nephew. It's not going so well. What needs to happen is the hard decision. What he needs won't be easy to give. What makes US feel better should not be the solution. And yet, we avoid the fire. Why? Because it is that painful and our family relationships hang in the balance. As it stands now, his alcoholism stands to destroy several of them. It is so unfair, because he sits there while we all worry and argue about his fate. You really can't understand the words "enabler" or "codependent" unless you have been one or been in the company of one. Don't judge unless you have been. It's a lot more complicated than you might think. My brother will most likely die of his disease and it will have been his choice. Frustrating, sad, indescribable.
So while some may think politics are the hot issue right now, I can't even think about any more adversity. I have to find ways of keeping my peace and contentment no matter what is going on. I have my relationship with God, my family, my friends, my old dog, and a beautiful place to call home. My job as a wife and mom is to keep my head and heart clear of junk so that I can perform at topnotch quality for them.
Sometimes that means I fall out of society for awhile. Sometimes you have to make those adjustments so you can stay focused on what matters and not be distracted by what doesn't. Life is an adjustment every day. Sometimes it's a battle, and there will always be a fire.
I hope I'm ready.
I am slow to change, and it doesn't always serve me well emotionally. I tend to want to hold on a little longer, and sometimes it just feels like a slow band-aid removal. Sometimes I wish I could just rip and roll with it. Some things I can do that very well. Others are slow and painful! I don't want to wallow in grief, or be too resistant to change, so I try to blow through situations and feelings in hopes of a good outcome. What I've learned is that sometimes I avoid the fire, and what burns is the wait.
Dealing with things head on is something I believe in logically. However, it's not always that easy. My brother, fresh out of rehab, is living with his son, my nephew. It's not going so well. What needs to happen is the hard decision. What he needs won't be easy to give. What makes US feel better should not be the solution. And yet, we avoid the fire. Why? Because it is that painful and our family relationships hang in the balance. As it stands now, his alcoholism stands to destroy several of them. It is so unfair, because he sits there while we all worry and argue about his fate. You really can't understand the words "enabler" or "codependent" unless you have been one or been in the company of one. Don't judge unless you have been. It's a lot more complicated than you might think. My brother will most likely die of his disease and it will have been his choice. Frustrating, sad, indescribable.
So while some may think politics are the hot issue right now, I can't even think about any more adversity. I have to find ways of keeping my peace and contentment no matter what is going on. I have my relationship with God, my family, my friends, my old dog, and a beautiful place to call home. My job as a wife and mom is to keep my head and heart clear of junk so that I can perform at topnotch quality for them.
Sometimes that means I fall out of society for awhile. Sometimes you have to make those adjustments so you can stay focused on what matters and not be distracted by what doesn't. Life is an adjustment every day. Sometimes it's a battle, and there will always be a fire.
I hope I'm ready.
Monday, October 25, 2010
A BooTiful Party
On Saturday night, we had our annual family Halloween party. For years it's just been the four of us, and it was always a time to carve our pumpkins, bob for apples, eat fun food, and watch the Charlie Brown Halloween special. The kids were never all that thrilled with trick or treating, and we would only go to both grandparents' homes, the senior apartments and my childhood neighbors. All that running around made for tired, grouchy kids, and it wasn't all that much fun!
Thus began the tradition of the family party. Each year it has had to change, as the girls grow older. Last year we invited G & G, and had a fun scavenger hunt in the wind and rain. This year we planned a treasure map expedition, complete with clues buried in old fashioned root beer bottles all around the property. After finding all the clues, they had to put it together to find the "treasure", I-Tunes cards! Daddy was uber clever with all the rhyming clues, and the girls wondered why we drank root beer all day before the party!!
The menu was "frankenpizza", "Swamp Slime with veggies", "Dracula's punch", "sewer cake" (compliments of Grandma), "Crispy Snake", and lot of other disgusting and delicious snacks. The girls requested "spooky" but not scary decorations, so I used purple and black, lots of bats, spiders, bones, and lots of slimy gross stuff. It actually looked pretty cute in the kitchen, even though it was "spooky".
After we pigged out, we watched the girls play "Just Dance", and Grandpa played a little Monster Buck Hunt with the funny orange Wii gun. Sophie slept through the whole thing! I sure wanted to sleep after all that work. It is a lot of work and time, but I love to surprise the girls with the menu, the decorations, and the games. They always appreciate it, and it's worth it just to make them smile!
Halloween to our family is nothing but a day to enjoy little kids in cute costumes, eating our weight in candy, and enjoying some happy time together. Any other description of the holiday to me just gives it way too much attention. I'm keeping it about the candy, the pumpkins, and Charlie Brown, of course! That's not so complicated, is it??
Thus began the tradition of the family party. Each year it has had to change, as the girls grow older. Last year we invited G & G, and had a fun scavenger hunt in the wind and rain. This year we planned a treasure map expedition, complete with clues buried in old fashioned root beer bottles all around the property. After finding all the clues, they had to put it together to find the "treasure", I-Tunes cards! Daddy was uber clever with all the rhyming clues, and the girls wondered why we drank root beer all day before the party!!
The menu was "frankenpizza", "Swamp Slime with veggies", "Dracula's punch", "sewer cake" (compliments of Grandma), "Crispy Snake", and lot of other disgusting and delicious snacks. The girls requested "spooky" but not scary decorations, so I used purple and black, lots of bats, spiders, bones, and lots of slimy gross stuff. It actually looked pretty cute in the kitchen, even though it was "spooky".
After we pigged out, we watched the girls play "Just Dance", and Grandpa played a little Monster Buck Hunt with the funny orange Wii gun. Sophie slept through the whole thing! I sure wanted to sleep after all that work. It is a lot of work and time, but I love to surprise the girls with the menu, the decorations, and the games. They always appreciate it, and it's worth it just to make them smile!
Halloween to our family is nothing but a day to enjoy little kids in cute costumes, eating our weight in candy, and enjoying some happy time together. Any other description of the holiday to me just gives it way too much attention. I'm keeping it about the candy, the pumpkins, and Charlie Brown, of course! That's not so complicated, is it??
Friday, October 22, 2010
Too Much Too Soon
Nat started 7th grade this year, and I started to notice her bonding more and more with a couple of her friends. I thought it was great that she had such a nice circle of friends, so I began asking her what had changed. She didn't really know, but it started to come to her realization slowly. Most of the girls in her class now have boyfriends. Yes, you heard me. Boyfriends. Freshman boyfriends. Natalie and her circle of friends are not into boys yet, so they hang out together. Smart girls!!
Call me old-fashioned, if you must, but does anyone else think that 7th grade is a bit young for all of that?? I've seen them in the parking lot after school, hugging goodbye as they board the busses, and I scratch my head in confusion. Really? You need a boyfriend already? Need?? Has it really come to that? Nattie still likes to cuddle with her dad. I can't imagine her cuddling with a boy at 12 years old!
I have taught my girls that having a boyfriend is something they must wait for! They are not to be calling and texting boys or pulling up their pants, as I saw one classmate do! Whoa! I've encouraged them to have boys as friends, as they can be some of the best friends they'll have in school. Girls can be pretty nasty sometimes. It's always great to have a boy who is a friend. I've taught them that having a boyfriend cannot be so important that it trumps your friendships! I've told them that you'll never NEED a boyfriend, but when you are ready, you may want one. If you never have one, it's probably a good thing. If you like to date, then date and don't get serious! I've also said to them at this point in their lives, boyfriends are NOT ALLOWED!! I know at least 2 other parents who are on board with that concept. I hope there are more out there!
Not only do some of these classmates have boyfriends, but if they happen to get "dumped", they find another boyfriend that same day. Again, I am perplexed by all of this! It's like having a boyfriend is like getting the latest tech gadget, you just can't live without it!
I wasn't interested in boys until high school, believe it or not! I preferred the company of my friends and my books! I thought boys were rude, crude, smelly, offensive, shallow, and pimply!! It seems as soon as boys entered my radar, things got really complicated! In hindsight, I would have spent more time with my friends, having fun.
I am saddened by these girls who think having a boyfriend is so important at this time in their lives. They will be exposed to things they are not ready for. They will compromise. Their self-worth will be decided by some boy. I'm not saying it happens to all of the girls, but not much has changed since I was in 7th grade. The girls are pretty much the same, and the boys? Well, boys are boys.
I pray that my girls will listen to me and their dad when we tell them to wait for these things. We really do know best! There is so much pressure on girls today that parents really need to be up on what's going on around their kids. For me,being home with my girls has given me such a unique perspective of their lives. I am in their lives 24/7. I don't miss much! I know if I was in the work force, I would be preoccupied with other things, and would probably not even think about what their friends are doing. I'm certain I wouldn't be as observant as I am now. My kids don't mind my presence now, but who knows what will happen as they mature. I'm laying down the law while they'll still listen!!
So, tell me, what do YOU think? Is 7th grade too young to date?
Call me old-fashioned, if you must, but does anyone else think that 7th grade is a bit young for all of that?? I've seen them in the parking lot after school, hugging goodbye as they board the busses, and I scratch my head in confusion. Really? You need a boyfriend already? Need?? Has it really come to that? Nattie still likes to cuddle with her dad. I can't imagine her cuddling with a boy at 12 years old!
I have taught my girls that having a boyfriend is something they must wait for! They are not to be calling and texting boys or pulling up their pants, as I saw one classmate do! Whoa! I've encouraged them to have boys as friends, as they can be some of the best friends they'll have in school. Girls can be pretty nasty sometimes. It's always great to have a boy who is a friend. I've taught them that having a boyfriend cannot be so important that it trumps your friendships! I've told them that you'll never NEED a boyfriend, but when you are ready, you may want one. If you never have one, it's probably a good thing. If you like to date, then date and don't get serious! I've also said to them at this point in their lives, boyfriends are NOT ALLOWED!! I know at least 2 other parents who are on board with that concept. I hope there are more out there!
Not only do some of these classmates have boyfriends, but if they happen to get "dumped", they find another boyfriend that same day. Again, I am perplexed by all of this! It's like having a boyfriend is like getting the latest tech gadget, you just can't live without it!
I wasn't interested in boys until high school, believe it or not! I preferred the company of my friends and my books! I thought boys were rude, crude, smelly, offensive, shallow, and pimply!! It seems as soon as boys entered my radar, things got really complicated! In hindsight, I would have spent more time with my friends, having fun.
I am saddened by these girls who think having a boyfriend is so important at this time in their lives. They will be exposed to things they are not ready for. They will compromise. Their self-worth will be decided by some boy. I'm not saying it happens to all of the girls, but not much has changed since I was in 7th grade. The girls are pretty much the same, and the boys? Well, boys are boys.
I pray that my girls will listen to me and their dad when we tell them to wait for these things. We really do know best! There is so much pressure on girls today that parents really need to be up on what's going on around their kids. For me,being home with my girls has given me such a unique perspective of their lives. I am in their lives 24/7. I don't miss much! I know if I was in the work force, I would be preoccupied with other things, and would probably not even think about what their friends are doing. I'm certain I wouldn't be as observant as I am now. My kids don't mind my presence now, but who knows what will happen as they mature. I'm laying down the law while they'll still listen!!
So, tell me, what do YOU think? Is 7th grade too young to date?
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Good Customer Service...A Myth??
Today's "rant" is about customer service! I will keep it to just a couple situations, although I could go on and on about lousy experiences. I won't do that unless it helps to teach something of value. I think this one does in the world today.
I am a scrapbooker, at least sometimes, and I was interested in finding some products that are only sold through a direct sales person. I went online and found a local seller, gave her a call, and that's when it began. She seemed very nice on the phone, only lived a few miles away in a neighboring town, and I was hopeful that not only would I get the products I was looking for, but maybe I'd find a new person to scrap with. That can be a difficult thing to find!
My first time talking with her, I should have seen the red flags! She was reluctant to meet me face to face. She said she was in the middle of cleaning and if she didn't answer the door when I came to pick up a catalog (yes, I drove over there!), that she would just have it between the doors. O......kay....
She ended up coming to the door, barely opening the door to meet me. I thought it was a little odd, but figured maybe she had a big mess and was trying to hide it from me. Okay, that's pretty normal. I just let it go.
A week or two went by and I decided to place an order. I sent her an email with my order, which she had told me to do when I was ready. I waited to hear from her. I waited. I waited. I emailed again. I waited again. Finally she responded. What a strange response. She claimed she didn't want to "bother" me by contacting me because another customer really got mad at her for calling. Huh?? Okay. I let that one go too, although I don't know why. I guess I just wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and not judge too soon. Because of her lack of service, I decided to withdraw over half of my order. I had needed some of the products for an upcoming crop and ended up getting them at local stores instead. So, she lost quite a bit, and I really only kept the rest of the order in to be polite. Silly me.
So, I let her know I really wanted to know my total, and here's what she said to me by email, not by phone, of course. "Here is your total. You can leave your check on my door." Yes. Tape it to her door!! Not only did I drive over there....again...I taped my check to her door. She had told me she hadn't been feeling well, and may not answer the door. I took that, and just let it go again.
Weeks went by and I didn't hear from her. She didn't respond to my emails, although she had my check. I sent her another email, not as friendly as the 3 before it, and she finally responded by saying she had had all these problems, and that's why she couldn't contact me. Okay, by now I was just annoyed with the whole thing. I couldn't believe that this was the way she was going to do business with me. I was disappointed that the vision of going to workshops and having crops with this person was completely shot! Not only did it take her forever to contact me, but now she tells me part of my order didn't come in. At that point I had lost any trust I had in her, and figured she just never placed the order anyway.
So, two months had gone by from the time I placed my order to the time she finally told me it was in (after I called her, of course) and guess what? She told me part of it didn't come and she was trying to get it from someone else. She also told me that when it came in, I could pick it up on her porch, between the doors, because she wouldn't be there. No explanations. No apologies. Nothing but weak excuses! So, for the third and final time, I drove to her house, picked up my order between the doors, and vowed never to contact her again.
I didn't get nasty, because I kinda figured out that she didn't have a clue to begin with. I just chose to speak by never doing business with her again. She made a big mistake with me. "Huge!" (As Pretty Woman would have said!) Of course, now I'm looking for a new consultant. Just a note about these consultants, I can't believe how many I've dealt with that give the worst service! I figure if I'm forking out the money, they can at least say thank you and offer to deliver the product. Call me old fashioned. I call it polite. TAPE IT TO THE DOOR. i DON'T THINK SO!!!
I worked in customer service for 12 years and I know how people want and need to be treated. It always annoys me to be a victim to poor customer service. There is just no excuse for it. I am patient to a degree, but sometimes people are just so blatantly rude and wrong! They quickly forget that Golden Rule. Do unto others as you'd have done to you!!!
That's it. I'm done. Thank you for coming. It was a pleasure to serve you today!! Have a nice day and call me if you need anything. I will not put you on hold. I will shake your hand, smile at you and call you by name. I will treat your money as if it as just as crucial to my life as it was to yours to give it up. I will call when I say I'm going to call and I will always put you first!!! And most importantly, when you leave, you will feel better than when you first talked to me.
THAT is good customer service!!!
I am a scrapbooker, at least sometimes, and I was interested in finding some products that are only sold through a direct sales person. I went online and found a local seller, gave her a call, and that's when it began. She seemed very nice on the phone, only lived a few miles away in a neighboring town, and I was hopeful that not only would I get the products I was looking for, but maybe I'd find a new person to scrap with. That can be a difficult thing to find!
My first time talking with her, I should have seen the red flags! She was reluctant to meet me face to face. She said she was in the middle of cleaning and if she didn't answer the door when I came to pick up a catalog (yes, I drove over there!), that she would just have it between the doors. O......kay....
She ended up coming to the door, barely opening the door to meet me. I thought it was a little odd, but figured maybe she had a big mess and was trying to hide it from me. Okay, that's pretty normal. I just let it go.
A week or two went by and I decided to place an order. I sent her an email with my order, which she had told me to do when I was ready. I waited to hear from her. I waited. I waited. I emailed again. I waited again. Finally she responded. What a strange response. She claimed she didn't want to "bother" me by contacting me because another customer really got mad at her for calling. Huh?? Okay. I let that one go too, although I don't know why. I guess I just wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and not judge too soon. Because of her lack of service, I decided to withdraw over half of my order. I had needed some of the products for an upcoming crop and ended up getting them at local stores instead. So, she lost quite a bit, and I really only kept the rest of the order in to be polite. Silly me.
So, I let her know I really wanted to know my total, and here's what she said to me by email, not by phone, of course. "Here is your total. You can leave your check on my door." Yes. Tape it to her door!! Not only did I drive over there....again...I taped my check to her door. She had told me she hadn't been feeling well, and may not answer the door. I took that, and just let it go again.
Weeks went by and I didn't hear from her. She didn't respond to my emails, although she had my check. I sent her another email, not as friendly as the 3 before it, and she finally responded by saying she had had all these problems, and that's why she couldn't contact me. Okay, by now I was just annoyed with the whole thing. I couldn't believe that this was the way she was going to do business with me. I was disappointed that the vision of going to workshops and having crops with this person was completely shot! Not only did it take her forever to contact me, but now she tells me part of my order didn't come in. At that point I had lost any trust I had in her, and figured she just never placed the order anyway.
So, two months had gone by from the time I placed my order to the time she finally told me it was in (after I called her, of course) and guess what? She told me part of it didn't come and she was trying to get it from someone else. She also told me that when it came in, I could pick it up on her porch, between the doors, because she wouldn't be there. No explanations. No apologies. Nothing but weak excuses! So, for the third and final time, I drove to her house, picked up my order between the doors, and vowed never to contact her again.
I didn't get nasty, because I kinda figured out that she didn't have a clue to begin with. I just chose to speak by never doing business with her again. She made a big mistake with me. "Huge!" (As Pretty Woman would have said!) Of course, now I'm looking for a new consultant. Just a note about these consultants, I can't believe how many I've dealt with that give the worst service! I figure if I'm forking out the money, they can at least say thank you and offer to deliver the product. Call me old fashioned. I call it polite. TAPE IT TO THE DOOR. i DON'T THINK SO!!!
I worked in customer service for 12 years and I know how people want and need to be treated. It always annoys me to be a victim to poor customer service. There is just no excuse for it. I am patient to a degree, but sometimes people are just so blatantly rude and wrong! They quickly forget that Golden Rule. Do unto others as you'd have done to you!!!
That's it. I'm done. Thank you for coming. It was a pleasure to serve you today!! Have a nice day and call me if you need anything. I will not put you on hold. I will shake your hand, smile at you and call you by name. I will treat your money as if it as just as crucial to my life as it was to yours to give it up. I will call when I say I'm going to call and I will always put you first!!! And most importantly, when you leave, you will feel better than when you first talked to me.
THAT is good customer service!!!
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
If I Was A Coach...
Natalie is done with Volleyball! The girls were number one in their conference, but lost quickly in tournaments Monday night. All these times of sitting through basketball and Volleyball games, and soon to be basketball again, lots of things go through my mind.
We have "Pay to Play" athletics, which means a $50 fee for each girl to play. Add to that the equipment needed, plus the (optional, but every girl wants them to fit in)warm-ups, team photos, and all the Powerade, and it can get expensive. Practice was every day for 2 hours, which means getting them there and getting them back, all the while trying to work or care for other kids in the family. Then there is the driving back and forth to all these schools, which are not in close proximity to ours. The games start at 4:30. Not very convenient for most families. A parent has to take time off to come to the games, and hopes to be able to watch their daughter play. Hopes.
Every girl signs a contract that says she will work her hardest at practice, knowing that her hard work will determine her play time. Hmmm....maybe I should have attended EVERY practice, because it seems to me that quite a few of the same girls spent most of their game time on the bench. Maybe I don't have enough inside information, but I continued to feel for the girls who didn't get as much time to play. I just believe that at this age, everyone should get a chance to learn and experience what it's like to be part of a team. I think at ANY age, kids should be able to play when they've signed up, paid, and practiced just like everyone else.
Now before you think I'm "one of those mothers", I didn't expect Natalie to play EVERY game. In fact, I didn't expect ANY of the girls to have that advantage. What I was hoping for was to see ALL of the girls have their moment. My girl had plenty of play time, and with 14 girls, and only 6 playing at a time, I didn't feel she should be out there more than anyone else. You know, I was being fair. What I see when I look at those 12 year old girls is myself at that age. I didn't want them to be discouraged! I wanted them to believe in themselves. I wanted them to learn the game. They can't do that while sitting. No one could.
I have nothing mean to say about her coach, don't get me wrong. She did a fine job with the girls. I just wanted to see less emphasis on winning, and more emphasis on every girl getting an opportunity to play, serve, and contribute. Maybe it's easier said than done, and that's why I don't want to throw the coach under the bus. I really don't. Natalie worked very well with her, and I know she put a lot of time and effort into teaching the girls. I look at many of these girls like a mother, not a coach, so my view is a bit different.
I was discouraged that the girls lost so easily last night, but the truth is, they didn't work hard enough to win. That's an important lesson too! I would like to think that if I was a coach, I would implement the things that I feel are important to every girl out there. Being able to be part of a team is something special. It's earned, yes, but lots of skill levels can earn that privilege. The girl who can't serve, the girl who just struggles, the girl who hits like a champ. They all deserve to be there, to be counted, to feel like they can accomplish something too. If they are putting forth THEIR best effort, then it should be good enough. It's good enough everywhere else, isn't it?? Why not sports?
Well, what ABOUT winning? What about being first? What's wrong with competition? What's wrong with playing your so-called "best" players all the time and leaving the rest out? What if YOUR kid was the one sitting out and YOU were the one driving an hour to watch them warm the bench? What if YOU spent all that money on soccer equipment and your kid played 5 minutes all season? Is it REALLY possible to put your heart into coaching without becoming TOO soft? I really think so!! Especially for these young kids just starting sports.
I heard a story the other day about 4 year olds playing soccer, and it just curled my toes! So, the team was playing this very skilled team (for 4 year olds) who is being coached by an obsessed dad. His team was WAY ahead of the opposing team, yet continued to tell his players to drive that ball, run hard, and they were knocking kids down to do it. The score was ridiculous. I think scoring is ridiculous at that age to begin with, but the losing team went home feeling pretty lousy. 4 years old. I thought it was supposed to be fun!!! What kind of precedent does that set? I just can't stand it.
Well, if I was a coach, we'd play fair. We'd play the best we could and we'd ALL play! Winning and losing would include the whole team. All the ones who practiced. All the ones who worked hard. ALl the ones who paid, showed up, and brought parents to watch!! I would probably be criticized, for sure, because some parents care way too much about winning, even when their kids don't!! But I'd be happy, and my team would be too! And isn't that what it's all about anyway??
We have "Pay to Play" athletics, which means a $50 fee for each girl to play. Add to that the equipment needed, plus the (optional, but every girl wants them to fit in)warm-ups, team photos, and all the Powerade, and it can get expensive. Practice was every day for 2 hours, which means getting them there and getting them back, all the while trying to work or care for other kids in the family. Then there is the driving back and forth to all these schools, which are not in close proximity to ours. The games start at 4:30. Not very convenient for most families. A parent has to take time off to come to the games, and hopes to be able to watch their daughter play. Hopes.
Every girl signs a contract that says she will work her hardest at practice, knowing that her hard work will determine her play time. Hmmm....maybe I should have attended EVERY practice, because it seems to me that quite a few of the same girls spent most of their game time on the bench. Maybe I don't have enough inside information, but I continued to feel for the girls who didn't get as much time to play. I just believe that at this age, everyone should get a chance to learn and experience what it's like to be part of a team. I think at ANY age, kids should be able to play when they've signed up, paid, and practiced just like everyone else.
Now before you think I'm "one of those mothers", I didn't expect Natalie to play EVERY game. In fact, I didn't expect ANY of the girls to have that advantage. What I was hoping for was to see ALL of the girls have their moment. My girl had plenty of play time, and with 14 girls, and only 6 playing at a time, I didn't feel she should be out there more than anyone else. You know, I was being fair. What I see when I look at those 12 year old girls is myself at that age. I didn't want them to be discouraged! I wanted them to believe in themselves. I wanted them to learn the game. They can't do that while sitting. No one could.
I have nothing mean to say about her coach, don't get me wrong. She did a fine job with the girls. I just wanted to see less emphasis on winning, and more emphasis on every girl getting an opportunity to play, serve, and contribute. Maybe it's easier said than done, and that's why I don't want to throw the coach under the bus. I really don't. Natalie worked very well with her, and I know she put a lot of time and effort into teaching the girls. I look at many of these girls like a mother, not a coach, so my view is a bit different.
I was discouraged that the girls lost so easily last night, but the truth is, they didn't work hard enough to win. That's an important lesson too! I would like to think that if I was a coach, I would implement the things that I feel are important to every girl out there. Being able to be part of a team is something special. It's earned, yes, but lots of skill levels can earn that privilege. The girl who can't serve, the girl who just struggles, the girl who hits like a champ. They all deserve to be there, to be counted, to feel like they can accomplish something too. If they are putting forth THEIR best effort, then it should be good enough. It's good enough everywhere else, isn't it?? Why not sports?
Well, what ABOUT winning? What about being first? What's wrong with competition? What's wrong with playing your so-called "best" players all the time and leaving the rest out? What if YOUR kid was the one sitting out and YOU were the one driving an hour to watch them warm the bench? What if YOU spent all that money on soccer equipment and your kid played 5 minutes all season? Is it REALLY possible to put your heart into coaching without becoming TOO soft? I really think so!! Especially for these young kids just starting sports.
I heard a story the other day about 4 year olds playing soccer, and it just curled my toes! So, the team was playing this very skilled team (for 4 year olds) who is being coached by an obsessed dad. His team was WAY ahead of the opposing team, yet continued to tell his players to drive that ball, run hard, and they were knocking kids down to do it. The score was ridiculous. I think scoring is ridiculous at that age to begin with, but the losing team went home feeling pretty lousy. 4 years old. I thought it was supposed to be fun!!! What kind of precedent does that set? I just can't stand it.
Well, if I was a coach, we'd play fair. We'd play the best we could and we'd ALL play! Winning and losing would include the whole team. All the ones who practiced. All the ones who worked hard. ALl the ones who paid, showed up, and brought parents to watch!! I would probably be criticized, for sure, because some parents care way too much about winning, even when their kids don't!! But I'd be happy, and my team would be too! And isn't that what it's all about anyway??
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Big Silly Funny Kid Life
Yes, anonymous, I used to do shadow puppets with my girls...no spiders!! I don't do spiders in any fashion!
You don't have to have kids to feel like a kid again. You don't have to be a kid to play! I heard something on the radio the other day that talked about how many times a child laughs a day vs. how many times older people laugh a day. It was a huge difference! Of course, it makes sense that we have more things on our minds than kids, and that's why we're not always laughing, but the study said that the less you laugh, the grumpier you will be as an older person. Well, I don't want to be a big grump! At least not permanently. Grumpy moments, yes. Grumpy me, no!
So, get out there and do some fun things. Feel like a kid again. Here are some of my favorite "kid" activities any "big kid" can do!
1. Shoot baskets! Backwards. Granny style. Bounce shots. Eyes closed. Opposite handed. Behind the rim. Get a pal and play "HORSE", "PIG", or "BOOGER".
2. Rake up a big pile of leaves and jump in! No trees? Play it a little risky and do it in the dark in your neighbor's yard! Just don't jump in a pile of leaves with a wet sucker. Just a little something I learned from reading "Peanuts". And if you have a dog, watch for "tootsie rolls" in your leaf pile.
3. Blow up the air mattress and pop in a favorite Disney movie. Pop some popcorn, grab some candy, put on your jammies, and hang out "sleepover" style. I'm a little partial to "Aladdin". This IS more fun with kids, but you can always adjust the movie and add an adult!
4. Throw marshmallows at the ceiling fan, as you may have seen in one of my past posts. It's still fun and a good reason to install a fan if you ask me.
5. Chase the dog or cat around. Let them try to "get" you. Back in the puppy days, Sophie was a hoot, watching her chase us around the house and the yard. She had a thing for gloves, and would pull them right off my hands and then run! She also loved to jump in leaves. Pets are a great companion for fun. Sophie doesn't crack me up as much these days, but I love talking about the old days with her. :)
6. Swing on a swing. Slide down a slide. Eat a popsicle--a red one! Drink loudly with a straw, eat fries with ketchup, use the back of your hand as a napkin!
7. Attempt a cartwheel. Learn to whistle with your fingers. Try to hula hoop. Pop a wheelie on your bike. On the way to the Emergency room, be sure to tell the EMT's a good joke or two.
8. Offer to babysit for a friend or family member. Steve and I love having younger kids around. We just sit back and laugh at all their antics, remembering how much we enjoyed our little girls at that age.
9. Take a nap! Kids have it made with this one, I think!
10. Read a favorite book from your childhood. I recently read, "Are you there God, it's me Margaret". Took me back to age 12! I hurried and came back...yikes!
11. Answer the phone in a weird voice. Answer the phone, "Bubba's Beer Barn", but only for telemarketers, in-laws, and whoever else would "get it". You would be surprised at who doesn't!
12. Sit cross-legged on the floor. Okay, I am just kidding. I can't do that!! ouch!
13. Read the comics. Watch your old favorite cartoons. I love the Looney Tunes, but I'm also known to catch some Jetsons or Flinstones! Yabba Dabba Doo! Hey, open up your front door and yell that right now!! Did you do it? Did you think about it? I knew it!!
14. Write everything in crayon for one day. Excuse notes for the kids, shopping lists, checks! Love notes for the lovey in your life. There's just something special about the smell and the feel of a good ole crayola. Try Play-Doh too. There's a smell that will take you back to kindergarten!! So will the smell of pee, but that's another story for another day. Some kids just aren't that funny.
15. Remember that God has a sense of humor. He loves children and watching us enjoy our lives. We're still His kids!! That means while we are being adults, we can still have mindless fun!!
I have more ideas, so if you're having trouble pulling out your inner child, let me know and I'll give you some more tips! I will never stop "being a kid" and I am always drawn to those who know how to play, little kids or the really big ones like me!! Big ole boring dull grouchy adults just don't do it for me.
So, Anonymous, get out there and be a kid! Have fun!! Come up with a clever shadow puppet and post it on YouTube!! Dinosaur, Horse, Unicorn...but no spiders!!
You don't have to have kids to feel like a kid again. You don't have to be a kid to play! I heard something on the radio the other day that talked about how many times a child laughs a day vs. how many times older people laugh a day. It was a huge difference! Of course, it makes sense that we have more things on our minds than kids, and that's why we're not always laughing, but the study said that the less you laugh, the grumpier you will be as an older person. Well, I don't want to be a big grump! At least not permanently. Grumpy moments, yes. Grumpy me, no!
So, get out there and do some fun things. Feel like a kid again. Here are some of my favorite "kid" activities any "big kid" can do!
1. Shoot baskets! Backwards. Granny style. Bounce shots. Eyes closed. Opposite handed. Behind the rim. Get a pal and play "HORSE", "PIG", or "BOOGER".
2. Rake up a big pile of leaves and jump in! No trees? Play it a little risky and do it in the dark in your neighbor's yard! Just don't jump in a pile of leaves with a wet sucker. Just a little something I learned from reading "Peanuts". And if you have a dog, watch for "tootsie rolls" in your leaf pile.
3. Blow up the air mattress and pop in a favorite Disney movie. Pop some popcorn, grab some candy, put on your jammies, and hang out "sleepover" style. I'm a little partial to "Aladdin". This IS more fun with kids, but you can always adjust the movie and add an adult!
4. Throw marshmallows at the ceiling fan, as you may have seen in one of my past posts. It's still fun and a good reason to install a fan if you ask me.
5. Chase the dog or cat around. Let them try to "get" you. Back in the puppy days, Sophie was a hoot, watching her chase us around the house and the yard. She had a thing for gloves, and would pull them right off my hands and then run! She also loved to jump in leaves. Pets are a great companion for fun. Sophie doesn't crack me up as much these days, but I love talking about the old days with her. :)
6. Swing on a swing. Slide down a slide. Eat a popsicle--a red one! Drink loudly with a straw, eat fries with ketchup, use the back of your hand as a napkin!
7. Attempt a cartwheel. Learn to whistle with your fingers. Try to hula hoop. Pop a wheelie on your bike. On the way to the Emergency room, be sure to tell the EMT's a good joke or two.
8. Offer to babysit for a friend or family member. Steve and I love having younger kids around. We just sit back and laugh at all their antics, remembering how much we enjoyed our little girls at that age.
9. Take a nap! Kids have it made with this one, I think!
10. Read a favorite book from your childhood. I recently read, "Are you there God, it's me Margaret". Took me back to age 12! I hurried and came back...yikes!
11. Answer the phone in a weird voice. Answer the phone, "Bubba's Beer Barn", but only for telemarketers, in-laws, and whoever else would "get it". You would be surprised at who doesn't!
12. Sit cross-legged on the floor. Okay, I am just kidding. I can't do that!! ouch!
13. Read the comics. Watch your old favorite cartoons. I love the Looney Tunes, but I'm also known to catch some Jetsons or Flinstones! Yabba Dabba Doo! Hey, open up your front door and yell that right now!! Did you do it? Did you think about it? I knew it!!
14. Write everything in crayon for one day. Excuse notes for the kids, shopping lists, checks! Love notes for the lovey in your life. There's just something special about the smell and the feel of a good ole crayola. Try Play-Doh too. There's a smell that will take you back to kindergarten!! So will the smell of pee, but that's another story for another day. Some kids just aren't that funny.
15. Remember that God has a sense of humor. He loves children and watching us enjoy our lives. We're still His kids!! That means while we are being adults, we can still have mindless fun!!
I have more ideas, so if you're having trouble pulling out your inner child, let me know and I'll give you some more tips! I will never stop "being a kid" and I am always drawn to those who know how to play, little kids or the really big ones like me!! Big ole boring dull grouchy adults just don't do it for me.
So, Anonymous, get out there and be a kid! Have fun!! Come up with a clever shadow puppet and post it on YouTube!! Dinosaur, Horse, Unicorn...but no spiders!!
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Live. Love. Laugh. Pee
Although I wish my girls would stop growing up so fast, I find myself enjoying them more and more these days. No, I don't enjoy the increasingly messy bedrooms and tendency to want to stay up later and later. Girls do tend to be a bit sloppy, and it drives me a bit nuts at times! If I can't find them, I just follow the trail of socks, bookbags, hair accessories,and granola bar wrappers, among many other things. They are turning into preteens for sure!
Tonight we headed out to the front yard with the volleyball for a little fun. I've been working with Natalie on her overhand serve, and teaching Serena basic skills. Like every other game we play, it quickly turns to silliness. Serena is trying to memorize the names of the bones, so each time she got hit with the ball, I'd hear, "hey, that hit me right in the clavicle!" "Oh, no, my patellas!" Natalie had to add her version of it, of course, by saying "I hurt my coccyx and my phalanges!" It's all I can do sometimes to not pee my pants! They are so so funny. Serena told me that Coach Klofp is teaching them proper running techniques in gym, so of course, both girls were running around with their legs flying here and there, and hands flapping like bird wings. "How's this, Coach?? Pretty good for a girl, eh?? That Serena...she's a sidesplitter!
Last night's tucking in was even sillier. I went into Serena's room to tell her goodnight, and she hid all but her eyes under her comforter. When I went to kiss her, she darted her face out of the way, and kept doing it over and over until she was laughing hysterically. I teasingly kissed her feet through her blanket and pretended it was her face. This just brought more giggling. And I wonder why they have such a hard time settling down to sleep!
With Natalie I was using one of my best gorpy voices...all nasally and weird, then I pretended to get all tough on her and used one of her preteen phrases. Only, I got it wrong and it came out "I'm gonna zip your Z!" The actual saying is, "Don't make me snap my fingers in a "z" formation...." So, what did I hear all day today?? "Hey, be careful or mom will zip your z!!" Whatevs. LOL,gag me with a spoon...
So another easy laugh session is when I attempt to play the "Just Dance" Wii game. It's great exercise, but I really can't keep up.....at least not yet! The girls are pretty good at it, and like to do "The Bird" because it's super fast and has a lot of crazy moves in it. I personally like "Pump up the Jam" and I have to sing it too! Loudly and with feeling. Oh, to be a fly on my wall, right?
Oh, my crazy funny family. I can't think of a better way to spend my life than with them, laughing and well, peeing my pants. :)
Tonight we headed out to the front yard with the volleyball for a little fun. I've been working with Natalie on her overhand serve, and teaching Serena basic skills. Like every other game we play, it quickly turns to silliness. Serena is trying to memorize the names of the bones, so each time she got hit with the ball, I'd hear, "hey, that hit me right in the clavicle!" "Oh, no, my patellas!" Natalie had to add her version of it, of course, by saying "I hurt my coccyx and my phalanges!" It's all I can do sometimes to not pee my pants! They are so so funny. Serena told me that Coach Klofp is teaching them proper running techniques in gym, so of course, both girls were running around with their legs flying here and there, and hands flapping like bird wings. "How's this, Coach?? Pretty good for a girl, eh?? That Serena...she's a sidesplitter!
Last night's tucking in was even sillier. I went into Serena's room to tell her goodnight, and she hid all but her eyes under her comforter. When I went to kiss her, she darted her face out of the way, and kept doing it over and over until she was laughing hysterically. I teasingly kissed her feet through her blanket and pretended it was her face. This just brought more giggling. And I wonder why they have such a hard time settling down to sleep!
With Natalie I was using one of my best gorpy voices...all nasally and weird, then I pretended to get all tough on her and used one of her preteen phrases. Only, I got it wrong and it came out "I'm gonna zip your Z!" The actual saying is, "Don't make me snap my fingers in a "z" formation...." So, what did I hear all day today?? "Hey, be careful or mom will zip your z!!" Whatevs. LOL,gag me with a spoon...
So another easy laugh session is when I attempt to play the "Just Dance" Wii game. It's great exercise, but I really can't keep up.....at least not yet! The girls are pretty good at it, and like to do "The Bird" because it's super fast and has a lot of crazy moves in it. I personally like "Pump up the Jam" and I have to sing it too! Loudly and with feeling. Oh, to be a fly on my wall, right?
Oh, my crazy funny family. I can't think of a better way to spend my life than with them, laughing and well, peeing my pants. :)
Monday, October 11, 2010
My Best Friend
Friday was our 16th anniversary! Originally we had a trip planned, but because our doggie has been so unpredictable these days, we decided it could wait. It's nothing that couldn't be rescheduled,and in the words of my hubby, "it doesn't matter where we are as long as we're hangin' out together!" So true.
We never really plan big shindigs for our anniversary. Heck, we don't do cards or gifts either! The only requirement for our anniversary is that we focus on each other the whole day! I like that better anyway.
So, Friday the kids didn't have school, and we planned to take them to the apple orchard for a yummy donut and fresh cider. After that, they were off to Grammy and Grampy's for the night and the next day!
We drove into town, got a movie and some Chinese takeout, then came home and pigged out in our comfy chairs. The next day we took a spontaneous road trip, stopping here and there to pick up a caramel apple, a couple of cokes, and a snack or two. Simple but fun. We talked about everything it seems we never have time to discuss, like how cool it would be to have a "party barn" in the backyard, or what we would do if we could do whatever we wanted to do.
We both enjoyed our quiet time at home, and maybe next year we'll take that trip we were planning. If not, it won't matter as long as we're "hangin' out together".
Thank you, God, for my wonderful husband and BEST FRIEND in the whole world!!!
We never really plan big shindigs for our anniversary. Heck, we don't do cards or gifts either! The only requirement for our anniversary is that we focus on each other the whole day! I like that better anyway.
So, Friday the kids didn't have school, and we planned to take them to the apple orchard for a yummy donut and fresh cider. After that, they were off to Grammy and Grampy's for the night and the next day!
We drove into town, got a movie and some Chinese takeout, then came home and pigged out in our comfy chairs. The next day we took a spontaneous road trip, stopping here and there to pick up a caramel apple, a couple of cokes, and a snack or two. Simple but fun. We talked about everything it seems we never have time to discuss, like how cool it would be to have a "party barn" in the backyard, or what we would do if we could do whatever we wanted to do.
We both enjoyed our quiet time at home, and maybe next year we'll take that trip we were planning. If not, it won't matter as long as we're "hangin' out together".
Thank you, God, for my wonderful husband and BEST FRIEND in the whole world!!!
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
TV Review
My blog will always be like a Variety Show, I guess. Must be my adult ADD (self-diagnosed, as usual). Today I bring you my favorite TV shows. If you don't like TV, well, then stick your nose back in your book or your butt back in your bathtub. This is for old show lovers, new show groupies, and those of us who have a special relationship with our electronic picture boxes.
Okay, enough of the sarcasm. (I'm most sure I learned that word from watching TV)
I used to be a big "Dancing with the Stars" fan until they stopped using actual stars. Now they are picking political children, reality tv people, and people I've never even heard of before. Maybe if they changed the name to "Dancing with the Strangers", I may get interested again. Some of those costumes are not only strange, but extremely skimpy! Hello, PG-13, please.
I'm all for the crime scene dramas, but please, do we need 45 of them?? I can't seem to keep them straight...CSI Miami, Miami Dolphins, CSI dolphins, CSI whatever. Do they not know the crime rates here some of our Michigan cities? Anyway, I'm done with CSI. And Law & Order, and any hospital dramas...too much gore and other stuff I can't stand and won't mention.....Miss Prudey Prudykins here.
I do like some other shows with initials, such as NCIS! I must have humor or forgetta bout it, I'm outta there! No, I don't watch ANY shows that have to do with Jersey, or have the word "Housewives" in them. Those housewives should live my life for one day. They'd change their title to "Princess" in a millisecond.
My favorite crime drama by far.....drumroll.....Castle!! Love that show, and it's Steve's and my date night tv choice. Funny. Clever. Interesting. A winner.
I'm trying to get into "The Defenders" with John Belushi, and "The Whole Truth" with Rob Morrow, star of my all time favorite tv show, Northern Exposure!! I have all 6 seasons on DVD! So far I like them both. I'm also a fan of Jason Ritter (John's son) who stars in "The Event". Reminds me a bit of "Lost", only not so much....I love Jason, but I can't seem to forget his role on "Joan of Arcadia", also a very cool show. He played a parapalegic...quite a stretch to his new role.
I also like just a few other shows, like "American Pickers", "Little People Big World", "Melissa and Joey", "Teach: Tony Danza", "The Middle", "Big Bang Theory", "Glee", "House Hunters". Sometimes I still like "Survivor", and I will check out "Kate Plus 8" just to shock myself with her shrinking clothes and growing...never mind. I'm a bit ashamed to admit I checked out that new show, "Sister Wives", and I felt like I needed to take a bath afterwards. I was just merely curious about the practice of having many wives. Although I don't want to judge their religious choices,it's certainly not anything I can understand. I love my ONE husband and knowing where he's been!! EW. Different Strokes, I guess. (Hey, another great old show!)
The truth of it is, I just don't have time to watch all the shows I like. I set the DVR to record them all, then watch when there is nothing else on, or if it's the weekend and there is only man junk on TV. I need to be passively entertained, and it's how I relax. I suppose I'm addicted to TV, but there are worse things!
Share with me your favorite TV shows from today or yesterday! I promise I won't laugh!
Okay, enough of the sarcasm. (I'm most sure I learned that word from watching TV)
I used to be a big "Dancing with the Stars" fan until they stopped using actual stars. Now they are picking political children, reality tv people, and people I've never even heard of before. Maybe if they changed the name to "Dancing with the Strangers", I may get interested again. Some of those costumes are not only strange, but extremely skimpy! Hello, PG-13, please.
I'm all for the crime scene dramas, but please, do we need 45 of them?? I can't seem to keep them straight...CSI Miami, Miami Dolphins, CSI dolphins, CSI whatever. Do they not know the crime rates here some of our Michigan cities? Anyway, I'm done with CSI. And Law & Order, and any hospital dramas...too much gore and other stuff I can't stand and won't mention.....Miss Prudey Prudykins here.
I do like some other shows with initials, such as NCIS! I must have humor or forgetta bout it, I'm outta there! No, I don't watch ANY shows that have to do with Jersey, or have the word "Housewives" in them. Those housewives should live my life for one day. They'd change their title to "Princess" in a millisecond.
My favorite crime drama by far.....drumroll.....Castle!! Love that show, and it's Steve's and my date night tv choice. Funny. Clever. Interesting. A winner.
I'm trying to get into "The Defenders" with John Belushi, and "The Whole Truth" with Rob Morrow, star of my all time favorite tv show, Northern Exposure!! I have all 6 seasons on DVD! So far I like them both. I'm also a fan of Jason Ritter (John's son) who stars in "The Event". Reminds me a bit of "Lost", only not so much....I love Jason, but I can't seem to forget his role on "Joan of Arcadia", also a very cool show. He played a parapalegic...quite a stretch to his new role.
I also like just a few other shows, like "American Pickers", "Little People Big World", "Melissa and Joey", "Teach: Tony Danza", "The Middle", "Big Bang Theory", "Glee", "House Hunters". Sometimes I still like "Survivor", and I will check out "Kate Plus 8" just to shock myself with her shrinking clothes and growing...never mind. I'm a bit ashamed to admit I checked out that new show, "Sister Wives", and I felt like I needed to take a bath afterwards. I was just merely curious about the practice of having many wives. Although I don't want to judge their religious choices,it's certainly not anything I can understand. I love my ONE husband and knowing where he's been!! EW. Different Strokes, I guess. (Hey, another great old show!)
The truth of it is, I just don't have time to watch all the shows I like. I set the DVR to record them all, then watch when there is nothing else on, or if it's the weekend and there is only man junk on TV. I need to be passively entertained, and it's how I relax. I suppose I'm addicted to TV, but there are worse things!
Share with me your favorite TV shows from today or yesterday! I promise I won't laugh!
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
My Rantings
I met with a specialist today to discuss the results of my recent MRI. Due to some "disconnects" between my symptoms, it was decided to do some labwork before we continue with treatment. So, I still don't have a definitive answer! I'm not worried about it, but it would be nice to be over the bump! I'm sure she's just being thorough and careful, and I appreciate that. I should know more next week.
One thing that upset us today was a lady who showed up for her appointment with no insurance and no way to pay for services. I'm not even sure how she got a referral with no insurance. She was under the impression that she would be billed and could pay it a little at a time. Well, no one does that anymore, and it's sad. Insurance is sad! But watching a lady cancel her appointment, walk out, knowing she needs help is just wrong all over the place. These are the times I wish I was a millionaire and could just be her benefactor! We are blessed to have insurance, but we jump through all their hoops just to get what we need and what we have paid for. Our doctor spends his time being frustrated by insurance instead of concentrating on medicine. It's wrong!! When the insurance person is talking to us on the phone about what we need and what we don't, I just can't believe it sometimes. They speak as if they know everything, though they have no medical expertise. They have no idea what their decisions do to the quality of someone's life. Oh, I am done complaining, but sometimes it just gets to me! So, please pray for the lady at the doctor's office today, that she would get the medical care that she needs and deserves.
One thing that upset us today was a lady who showed up for her appointment with no insurance and no way to pay for services. I'm not even sure how she got a referral with no insurance. She was under the impression that she would be billed and could pay it a little at a time. Well, no one does that anymore, and it's sad. Insurance is sad! But watching a lady cancel her appointment, walk out, knowing she needs help is just wrong all over the place. These are the times I wish I was a millionaire and could just be her benefactor! We are blessed to have insurance, but we jump through all their hoops just to get what we need and what we have paid for. Our doctor spends his time being frustrated by insurance instead of concentrating on medicine. It's wrong!! When the insurance person is talking to us on the phone about what we need and what we don't, I just can't believe it sometimes. They speak as if they know everything, though they have no medical expertise. They have no idea what their decisions do to the quality of someone's life. Oh, I am done complaining, but sometimes it just gets to me! So, please pray for the lady at the doctor's office today, that she would get the medical care that she needs and deserves.
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Cute Buns
I knew you'd be wondering what that title was all about, you stinker you! Sophie is improving! Thank you for all your prayers! She is managing much better, although we aren't getting too hopeful. We know it's still a matter of time. It's just that she seems to be over her "flu" issues. She is now way off her normal diet, and is stuck to me like glue. In other words, I kinda have a newborn baby around here! One day at a time...The Lord has continued to give me strength and patience every day!
So, on to the "buns" in my title. We already told the girls that getting another dog was not in the plans, much to their disappointment. Truly, I could use a break from all the hoopla a puppy causes--chewing, pooping, whining at all hours, jumping, barking, you know what I mean. We also want to do some traveling next year, and who knows, maybe we'll finally be able to do something spontaneous, like not come home after a long day trip to wherever. Anyway...I'm almost to the "buns" part, if you haven't already figured it out.
We decided that the girls would probably be very sad and lonely to lose their cuddle bum, and would need something sweet to hold and love on. We finally broke down to their constant request for bunnies! We know very little about rabbits,but a friend I worked with years ago raised rabbits in the hundreds. Nat also has a farm friend who has a smart farm mom! Anyway, the girls are researching everything bunny for us, and we will get going on it soon. Every rabbit I see in my yard is named "Mr. Bun", and of course, I suggested that for one of the names. They just laughed at me, as usual.
One thing I know is that these will be "cute buns" and the girls will love them. I will love that they are outside and can be cared for easily by a neighbor kid when we are gone! Stay tuned....maybe I will be able to post pictures again soon. Stinkin' computer.....
So, on to the "buns" in my title. We already told the girls that getting another dog was not in the plans, much to their disappointment. Truly, I could use a break from all the hoopla a puppy causes--chewing, pooping, whining at all hours, jumping, barking, you know what I mean. We also want to do some traveling next year, and who knows, maybe we'll finally be able to do something spontaneous, like not come home after a long day trip to wherever. Anyway...I'm almost to the "buns" part, if you haven't already figured it out.
We decided that the girls would probably be very sad and lonely to lose their cuddle bum, and would need something sweet to hold and love on. We finally broke down to their constant request for bunnies! We know very little about rabbits,but a friend I worked with years ago raised rabbits in the hundreds. Nat also has a farm friend who has a smart farm mom! Anyway, the girls are researching everything bunny for us, and we will get going on it soon. Every rabbit I see in my yard is named "Mr. Bun", and of course, I suggested that for one of the names. They just laughed at me, as usual.
One thing I know is that these will be "cute buns" and the girls will love them. I will love that they are outside and can be cared for easily by a neighbor kid when we are gone! Stay tuned....maybe I will be able to post pictures again soon. Stinkin' computer.....
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Things that Go "WHOOSH" in the Night
I got myself scared silly last night, or shall I say way early this morning! Sophie decided she needed to go out at 3:15am, and Steve of course, was snoozing away in Texas. I always make a bunch of noise before I go outside at those hours, so I opened the big garage door and stepped out in my robe and slippers, hoping Sophie would do a quick business. She felt like wandering a bit, so I just stood in the driveway, watching her poke around. Suddenly I hear this rustling sound followed by a weird whooshing sound. It kept going every few seconds, each time alerting me to the fact that it was 3:15am, I'm alone in the woods, and my husband isn't here to protect me! (But Smith, Wesson, and Brinks is, by the way....don't tick off the Irish girl. I shoot to kill) Anyway....the sound seemed to be getting closer!
I couldn't wait for her to come back to me, so I rushed out in the yard and scooped her up ( I say it loosely. She's a 50 pound brick) and scurried back to the house, shutting the door behind me. I then opened up the french doors to see if I could still hear that noise. (so brave and foolish, I know) Turns out it wasn't a rabid coyote mother with babies, an axe murdering squirrel, a demented pack of bears (pack?) or anything else that would make me pee my pants. It was just our sprinkler, which is set to go off in 30 minute intervals at weird times. Imagination weirdation. But hey, it was 3:15am. And scary dark out there, even with the security lights. Dark, I tell you! At 3:15am! Scary! Alone! Ok, you get it...:)
So, it took me well over an hour to get back to sleep, and then I was awakened again by the sounds of my girls screaming upstairs. I'm hearing blood curdling screams in the middle of the night! Or so I thought. Turns out I was just having a nightmare, which I have from time to time. I said a quick prayer, and got back to sleep just in time to hear the alarm go off. Sigh...
So, tonight, hubby is coming home! He's on the plane as we speak. I made him a batch of his favorite cookies today to welcome him home. Add to that a pile of bills, an ailing dog, and oh boy, who wouldn't just rush right home to all that?? I guess he's a bit crazy. He'd have to be to put up with me!!
I couldn't wait for her to come back to me, so I rushed out in the yard and scooped her up ( I say it loosely. She's a 50 pound brick) and scurried back to the house, shutting the door behind me. I then opened up the french doors to see if I could still hear that noise. (so brave and foolish, I know) Turns out it wasn't a rabid coyote mother with babies, an axe murdering squirrel, a demented pack of bears (pack?) or anything else that would make me pee my pants. It was just our sprinkler, which is set to go off in 30 minute intervals at weird times. Imagination weirdation. But hey, it was 3:15am. And scary dark out there, even with the security lights. Dark, I tell you! At 3:15am! Scary! Alone! Ok, you get it...:)
So, it took me well over an hour to get back to sleep, and then I was awakened again by the sounds of my girls screaming upstairs. I'm hearing blood curdling screams in the middle of the night! Or so I thought. Turns out I was just having a nightmare, which I have from time to time. I said a quick prayer, and got back to sleep just in time to hear the alarm go off. Sigh...
So, tonight, hubby is coming home! He's on the plane as we speak. I made him a batch of his favorite cookies today to welcome him home. Add to that a pile of bills, an ailing dog, and oh boy, who wouldn't just rush right home to all that?? I guess he's a bit crazy. He'd have to be to put up with me!!
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Coffee and Oatmeal
I'm finding pleasure in simple things these days, since my world is a bit small for the moment! Since things were getting a bit stressful for me, I decided that I needed to eat better and sleep more. That can also mean taking a little power nap in the middle of the day. Yes, the middle of the day. It also means eating healthier, because we should know by now that stress can cause you to gain or lose weight, and never in a healthy way. So, back to the fruits and veggies for me. I have felt much better already.
My daily breakfast has been simple ole oatmeal. Not the cement kind you get in hotel buffets, no way! I cook up a batch of regular oatmeal, then add "pie and cookies" to it. "Pie" means adding fruit, such as apples, then a bit of vanilla, brown sugar, a splash of milk, and a sprinkle of apple pie spice. Top it off with a handful of walnuts (omega 3's) and watch a little TV. So relaxing. Today I had "Pumpkin Pie Oatmeal". I made the girls pumpkin pancakes for breakfast this morning, so I had a little pumpkin (actually a lot) left over. I added a spoonful to my oatmeal with my vanilla, brown sugar, and milk, then topped it with chopped pecans and pumpkin pie spice. Yummy!
My girls are particularly fond of "Oatmeal cookie Oatmeal", and it's a no-brainer. Just add raisins, nuts, vanilla, brown sugar, milk, and a little cinnamon on top. That's how I got them to eat it in the first place! Now they love to experiment with their oatmeal flavors. We just think "cookies and pie", and the ideas come rushing in. You can always cut back on the sugar and use skim milk to make it even healthier. I find that oatmeal keeps me full until lunchtime too! Sometime I'll tell you about my doctored tomato soup too!
My coffee has also had a makeover. I love cappuccino, but refuse to pay $4 for it! So, I bought the instant cappuccino mix. I take about 2 teaspoons of it, add a little of my fat free vanilla creamer, microwave it for about 25 seconds, then take it out and whip it with my tiny whippy dipper thing. (got it at the dollar store for free!)It froths up like a real cappuccino, then you just add your regular coffee to it. I sometimes add cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice, or I use flavored coffee to start. A good one is cinnamon vanilla nut.
Another stress reliever for me is to use room sprays or candles. I just spritz a little spray here and there, and it's instant tranquility.
It's the little things that keep me going, I've always said. I am trying hard not to let my temporary situation derail me. I've been asked why I'm keeping my dog alive right now. Well, let me just say that you would be lucky to be my dog. If you're still happy to see me, you're still walking and wagging your tail, you still love treats and snuggling, then I will do everything in my power to make you happy until you decide you can't be happy anymore. When she gives up, I will give up too. And it will be our decision, no one else's!!
Until then, I will enjoy my oatmeal and coffee....and my Sophie dog too.
My daily breakfast has been simple ole oatmeal. Not the cement kind you get in hotel buffets, no way! I cook up a batch of regular oatmeal, then add "pie and cookies" to it. "Pie" means adding fruit, such as apples, then a bit of vanilla, brown sugar, a splash of milk, and a sprinkle of apple pie spice. Top it off with a handful of walnuts (omega 3's) and watch a little TV. So relaxing. Today I had "Pumpkin Pie Oatmeal". I made the girls pumpkin pancakes for breakfast this morning, so I had a little pumpkin (actually a lot) left over. I added a spoonful to my oatmeal with my vanilla, brown sugar, and milk, then topped it with chopped pecans and pumpkin pie spice. Yummy!
My girls are particularly fond of "Oatmeal cookie Oatmeal", and it's a no-brainer. Just add raisins, nuts, vanilla, brown sugar, milk, and a little cinnamon on top. That's how I got them to eat it in the first place! Now they love to experiment with their oatmeal flavors. We just think "cookies and pie", and the ideas come rushing in. You can always cut back on the sugar and use skim milk to make it even healthier. I find that oatmeal keeps me full until lunchtime too! Sometime I'll tell you about my doctored tomato soup too!
My coffee has also had a makeover. I love cappuccino, but refuse to pay $4 for it! So, I bought the instant cappuccino mix. I take about 2 teaspoons of it, add a little of my fat free vanilla creamer, microwave it for about 25 seconds, then take it out and whip it with my tiny whippy dipper thing. (got it at the dollar store for free!)It froths up like a real cappuccino, then you just add your regular coffee to it. I sometimes add cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice, or I use flavored coffee to start. A good one is cinnamon vanilla nut.
Another stress reliever for me is to use room sprays or candles. I just spritz a little spray here and there, and it's instant tranquility.
It's the little things that keep me going, I've always said. I am trying hard not to let my temporary situation derail me. I've been asked why I'm keeping my dog alive right now. Well, let me just say that you would be lucky to be my dog. If you're still happy to see me, you're still walking and wagging your tail, you still love treats and snuggling, then I will do everything in my power to make you happy until you decide you can't be happy anymore. When she gives up, I will give up too. And it will be our decision, no one else's!!
Until then, I will enjoy my oatmeal and coffee....and my Sophie dog too.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
What Else...
So here's what else is going on around the neighborhood besides our Sophie problem...
in the yard...
the leaves are changing, the air is cooler, fall decorations are goin' up!
the turkeys are mocking Steve, playing in the sandbox and eating his grass seed!
mama deer is hanging out with her twins, enjoying the sun
the lawn chairs are getting ready to be put up for the season
the fire pit is awaiting the final bonfire of the year
The mums and roses are gorgeous
there is a lot of work to do!~
in the barn...
mushrooms (oysters, shiitakes, mitakes) are growing
mice are probably hunkering down in something I will touch in the spring
my bike is dusty from being ignored all summer! :(
in the house....
apple, pumpkin, and fall scented candles are everywhere!
the fall decorations are in every room, every corner, and make me smile
the jasmine tree is blooming, my grandma's plant is going crazy
Serena's room is all done and is so cute! I wish it was mine!
The scrapbook/computer/piano room became the family room
The dining room became the piano/sitting room
The dining room table went to the kitchen
The kitchen table went to the basement
The basement love seat, tv and stand came up to the family room
The scrapbook stuff went to our bedroom
The dresser from the bedroom went to the kitchen
new white board and bulletin board were installed in the family info area
The computer and office stuff went to the nook in the living room
The cookbooks found a new home in a brand new shelf unit for the kitchen
The red chair from the living room went to the sitting room
The dining room lamp went to the living room
...and it all looks great!
The Kids brains...
getting ready for another week of school, games, activities and chores
shopping at the mall
Steve's Brain...
preparing for his trip
trying to get chores done for fall
football
mushrooms
My brain...
my new eating plan
wondering how to spend my birthday money
chores
the busy week ahead
and many other things!
That's "what else" !!!
in the yard...
the leaves are changing, the air is cooler, fall decorations are goin' up!
the turkeys are mocking Steve, playing in the sandbox and eating his grass seed!
mama deer is hanging out with her twins, enjoying the sun
the lawn chairs are getting ready to be put up for the season
the fire pit is awaiting the final bonfire of the year
The mums and roses are gorgeous
there is a lot of work to do!~
in the barn...
mushrooms (oysters, shiitakes, mitakes) are growing
mice are probably hunkering down in something I will touch in the spring
my bike is dusty from being ignored all summer! :(
in the house....
apple, pumpkin, and fall scented candles are everywhere!
the fall decorations are in every room, every corner, and make me smile
the jasmine tree is blooming, my grandma's plant is going crazy
Serena's room is all done and is so cute! I wish it was mine!
The scrapbook/computer/piano room became the family room
The dining room became the piano/sitting room
The dining room table went to the kitchen
The kitchen table went to the basement
The basement love seat, tv and stand came up to the family room
The scrapbook stuff went to our bedroom
The dresser from the bedroom went to the kitchen
new white board and bulletin board were installed in the family info area
The computer and office stuff went to the nook in the living room
The cookbooks found a new home in a brand new shelf unit for the kitchen
The red chair from the living room went to the sitting room
The dining room lamp went to the living room
...and it all looks great!
The Kids brains...
getting ready for another week of school, games, activities and chores
shopping at the mall
Steve's Brain...
preparing for his trip
trying to get chores done for fall
football
mushrooms
My brain...
my new eating plan
wondering how to spend my birthday money
chores
the busy week ahead
and many other things!
That's "what else" !!!
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Faith is Easy, but Trust?
So,Sophie is still hanging in there, but nothing has changed. Steve is leaving for a few days on another trip. I just hope nothing happens while he's gone. Life is so dang stressful sometimes! I've been told that I'm not complaining. That sometimes you need to release your burdens and talk it over. Burdens are different than complaints. It made me feel better about all my lamenting these days. Thank you. This too shall pass. See why I don't talk politics now??? Too much complaining. Not enough solving.
Natalie had been complaining about her knee for awhile, and it finally came to a head during practice last week. Fast forwarding....she's starting physical therapy on Monday. Doc says her knees are the "floppiest" he's ever seen. She's super flexible and double jointed, and we just thought it was cool. Evidently with a 3 inch growth spurt in a year, that causes problems on the bones, joints, and ligaments. Oh, what do I know??? So, now we have a couple issues. Nat absolutely loves Volleyball and was so excited to be on the starting lineup each game. It was really the first time she knew this was her game. She was starting to be confident about her athletic ability, she was finally not sitting the bench. Now she may not even get to play. Who can I even be mad at? No one and it makes me madder. Why???? I'm sorry, I just have to ask!! Maybe I just have too many frustrations at once. Maybe I'm just sick and tired of having to fight through everything and nothing ever seems to get any better. Maybe I need Calgon to take me away. Sometimes it's just too much at once. "Joy in suffering..."??? That is Truth, but hubba- whaaa??? Back up the taxi, I'm gettin' off!!! Let me just say "WAAAAAAH" too, just for good measure.
Like why 10 year olds have to deal with periods when they haven't even learned the facts of life yet! Why 12 year olds who already have to deal with severe scoliosis and acne also have to put up with knee issues already! Like why I have arthritis in my back when I just told my daughter I'd take tennis lessons with her.
Don't you ever feel like that? Like, yes, I know there is a God, and I know His promises to me, but I still feel like crap anyway? Then you feel like crap for feeling like crap! Put others above yourselves, help others, quit being a baby, (or something sorta like that) I know, I know! But I blow, I blow!!
I'm not so self-centered not to realize that there are people way worse off than me. I also know that if you have a broken ankle, it hurts, even if your friend has a broken leg too. I guess one of my problems is that when things in my life are out of control or unbearable, I look to my kids and watch their joy. When they aren't happy, I'm not happy either. Oh, crap! Now what?? That whole "depending on others for your happiness" thing really stinks, doesn't it?
Yes, I turn to the Word (yesiree, I really do) and look up all the verses on joy and hardship, suffering, and all topics related. I pray. I talk it over. I wait. I get impatient.(so human of me, i know) In case you hadn't noticed, I am not perfect. I don't have it all together, horror of all horrors, I know. Life is hard. Having a husband and kids is hard, even if they are the very j in your "joy". Having bills to pay, health concerns, friends in trouble, siblings, ill parents, etc... it's all part of a big, sometimes messy life. I have spent a couple of paragraphs perhaps venting, you may say, but I've also let you know that leaning on God is not easy for me sometimes, though I know He is the key to surviving anything. Learn from this mistake-making stubborn, sometimes brooding Irish girl. Let God have it, and I don't mean your temper. Let God have your burdens right along with your praise. He wants it all. This I have seen. I can be in the middle of being negative, and a joyful thought will pop into my head. It's like kryptonite. Power!!
Life is hard. It's never what you expect. It's sometimes wonderful, and sometimes unbearable. Some days are diamonds, some days are just crap, but God is bigger, I know. God is bigger and sweeter and more important than me. I get it.
Natalie had been complaining about her knee for awhile, and it finally came to a head during practice last week. Fast forwarding....she's starting physical therapy on Monday. Doc says her knees are the "floppiest" he's ever seen. She's super flexible and double jointed, and we just thought it was cool. Evidently with a 3 inch growth spurt in a year, that causes problems on the bones, joints, and ligaments. Oh, what do I know??? So, now we have a couple issues. Nat absolutely loves Volleyball and was so excited to be on the starting lineup each game. It was really the first time she knew this was her game. She was starting to be confident about her athletic ability, she was finally not sitting the bench. Now she may not even get to play. Who can I even be mad at? No one and it makes me madder. Why???? I'm sorry, I just have to ask!! Maybe I just have too many frustrations at once. Maybe I'm just sick and tired of having to fight through everything and nothing ever seems to get any better. Maybe I need Calgon to take me away. Sometimes it's just too much at once. "Joy in suffering..."??? That is Truth, but hubba- whaaa??? Back up the taxi, I'm gettin' off!!! Let me just say "WAAAAAAH" too, just for good measure.
Like why 10 year olds have to deal with periods when they haven't even learned the facts of life yet! Why 12 year olds who already have to deal with severe scoliosis and acne also have to put up with knee issues already! Like why I have arthritis in my back when I just told my daughter I'd take tennis lessons with her.
Don't you ever feel like that? Like, yes, I know there is a God, and I know His promises to me, but I still feel like crap anyway? Then you feel like crap for feeling like crap! Put others above yourselves, help others, quit being a baby, (or something sorta like that) I know, I know! But I blow, I blow!!
I'm not so self-centered not to realize that there are people way worse off than me. I also know that if you have a broken ankle, it hurts, even if your friend has a broken leg too. I guess one of my problems is that when things in my life are out of control or unbearable, I look to my kids and watch their joy. When they aren't happy, I'm not happy either. Oh, crap! Now what?? That whole "depending on others for your happiness" thing really stinks, doesn't it?
Yes, I turn to the Word (yesiree, I really do) and look up all the verses on joy and hardship, suffering, and all topics related. I pray. I talk it over. I wait. I get impatient.(so human of me, i know) In case you hadn't noticed, I am not perfect. I don't have it all together, horror of all horrors, I know. Life is hard. Having a husband and kids is hard, even if they are the very j in your "joy". Having bills to pay, health concerns, friends in trouble, siblings, ill parents, etc... it's all part of a big, sometimes messy life. I have spent a couple of paragraphs perhaps venting, you may say, but I've also let you know that leaning on God is not easy for me sometimes, though I know He is the key to surviving anything. Learn from this mistake-making stubborn, sometimes brooding Irish girl. Let God have it, and I don't mean your temper. Let God have your burdens right along with your praise. He wants it all. This I have seen. I can be in the middle of being negative, and a joyful thought will pop into my head. It's like kryptonite. Power!!
Life is hard. It's never what you expect. It's sometimes wonderful, and sometimes unbearable. Some days are diamonds, some days are just crap, but God is bigger, I know. God is bigger and sweeter and more important than me. I get it.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Bittersweet Emotions
On March 27, 1996, Steve brought home our first child. She was black and white, fuzzy, and a complete stinker. She was the only one at the pound who came running to the front of her cage, barking and jumping furiously at Steve. "Take me!" She seemed to say. She rode on Steve's lap all the way home. When he carried her through the door, all I could see from beneath the cabinets were these long, fuzzy legs. Before I even saw the rest of her, I exclaimed, "She's perfect!"
As much as I would love to go on and on about the joy she has brought to all of us, I just can't. Sadly, I know her end is near. She is declining fast. That playful, mischievous puppy has turned into a slow, struggling senior dog. She is still sweet, loving, cuddly, and gentle. Her spirit is still strong, but her body is failing her and there is nothing I can do about it. Stinkin' circle of life thing.
I have been struggling to care for her, as lifting her is painful on my back. Even more painful is the constant worry in my heart over how the end will be. Will we need to make that decision? Will she just go while she's dreaming of chasing bunnies? How will the girls handle it? How will we fill the void of having a faithful, loving companion for the last 14 1/2 years?
I have cried while telling her goodbye at least 5 times. I have prayed for her, as silly as that sounds to some. Don't forget, she is God's creation too, and while she's not as important as a human, God knows she is important to us. And we are important to God. He knows my tears, even those shed over my dog. They are all counted and that, I know for sure.
So, I will wait. I will continue to stay home as much as I can, caring for her every need. I will carry her outside, clean off her poo, step in her pee, and feed her by hand. Not because I'm a saint, but because that's what you do when someone or something needs you so badly. She's not in pain, her labs came back good, so we have to believe this is just old age and what comes with it. We won't let her stick around just to make us happy, that's for sure.
Please keep us in your prayers. I know 2 girls who love her dearly, in fact, grew up with her since birth, who will be heartbroken by her loss. We will be needing guidance as far as how and when to make a painful decision, if it comes to that.
For now, her tail is still wagging, and she still seems happy to be with us. I guess she's trying to tell me to take it one moment at a time. We go from being able to talk about it to avoiding it all together. From talking about where to bury her to crying at the drop of a hat. It won't be easy, I know.
One thing I know right now is I will not want another dog. I'm sticking to goldfish. I have no problem flushing those floaters!
As much as I would love to go on and on about the joy she has brought to all of us, I just can't. Sadly, I know her end is near. She is declining fast. That playful, mischievous puppy has turned into a slow, struggling senior dog. She is still sweet, loving, cuddly, and gentle. Her spirit is still strong, but her body is failing her and there is nothing I can do about it. Stinkin' circle of life thing.
I have been struggling to care for her, as lifting her is painful on my back. Even more painful is the constant worry in my heart over how the end will be. Will we need to make that decision? Will she just go while she's dreaming of chasing bunnies? How will the girls handle it? How will we fill the void of having a faithful, loving companion for the last 14 1/2 years?
I have cried while telling her goodbye at least 5 times. I have prayed for her, as silly as that sounds to some. Don't forget, she is God's creation too, and while she's not as important as a human, God knows she is important to us. And we are important to God. He knows my tears, even those shed over my dog. They are all counted and that, I know for sure.
So, I will wait. I will continue to stay home as much as I can, caring for her every need. I will carry her outside, clean off her poo, step in her pee, and feed her by hand. Not because I'm a saint, but because that's what you do when someone or something needs you so badly. She's not in pain, her labs came back good, so we have to believe this is just old age and what comes with it. We won't let her stick around just to make us happy, that's for sure.
Please keep us in your prayers. I know 2 girls who love her dearly, in fact, grew up with her since birth, who will be heartbroken by her loss. We will be needing guidance as far as how and when to make a painful decision, if it comes to that.
For now, her tail is still wagging, and she still seems happy to be with us. I guess she's trying to tell me to take it one moment at a time. We go from being able to talk about it to avoiding it all together. From talking about where to bury her to crying at the drop of a hat. It won't be easy, I know.
One thing I know right now is I will not want another dog. I'm sticking to goldfish. I have no problem flushing those floaters!
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Hey Strangers
Just poppin' in to say "hey" to my peeps. Whoever you are! Hey, strangers, I just celebrated my birthday yesterday! See, that's stuff you don't tell people you know because they'd say "oops...I forgot!" Well, some didn't forget, and some of those people got cake!! Too bad for you, person I do not know. It was chocolate with buttercream icing and it said, "Happy Birthday, Mommy". Mommy. That's me! I used to think my favorite birthdays were when I was a kid. Nope. They've been the best since I've had my kids. They make every birthday feel like a monumental celebration! Steve's the mastermind behind it all, and he is an awesome birthday planner. I'm just too dang lucky. It's a crime, really.
My oldest daughter played her first Volleyball game on my birthday. She's really good! Of course, #17 here wasn't so shabby either! Guess the genes are good for more than just beauty. Oh, I am snarkin' on you tonight! She played most of the game and fell asleep in the car on the way to KFC. Oh, yes. We celebrate with chicken around here. We are very fancy people.
School has gotten off to a great start for both girls. Serena came home from her first day and said, "Mom, I love love love Mrs. LeFevre!! She's great! She's funny, she's cool, etc...". Truly, she's right. Those 5th and 6th grade teachers are the best, if you ask me. All we had to do was make it through one bad year, and now we're set. Any apprehensions we had before school started have been resolved. And Who do you think was responsible for that?? It is clear to me now what God is trying to do. And what He is doing needs to be done right where she's at. I've always been a firm, strong believer in having Christian kids in our school system. When I was in school, it was the Christian kids who talked to the kids no one else would talk to. It was the Christian kid who invited people to church. It was the Christian kid who prayed with you when you cut your arm on a glass door. I had forgotten all of that and got wrapped up in my own desires to "protect" my kids. The fact is, my kids are probably there for someone else in the first place, just like those kids from my past were there for me! Ding...went the loud bell in my head as I would pray about this. I will say that this was my answer. Maybe your answer was something else. It's a comfort to know that God's answers are tailored individually for each of us! That just means He is listening and working it all out!
Natalie loves 7th grade. Loves Ms. Pitchford, the principal, and yes, she is fabulous, I must agree! She runs a tight ship and it shows! Pastor Shannon comes to the school at lunch and not only leads prayer, but has his lunch there just so he can interact with those kids. Not just the Christian kids, but ALL of them! Natalie has several of her friends praying with her at the flagpole in front of the school, and she is just ecstatic about it. The teachers are plugged in, interested in the kids, and make learning fun. Natalie still loves band with the cool Mr. Burkhart, and is enjoying her first season of Volleyball.
I guess what I am most happy about is that they have a passion for learning, for practicing what they know about Christ, for trying new things, and for having good attitudes! It makes my job so much easier!
Speaking of my job, I have been busy painting bedrooms! Serena's is first, then I'll move to Natalie's. The kitchen will be next. I have a lot of organizational jobs to start as well. This house will be ship shape in no time.
I'm not in ship shape, however. Although I've been painting, it hasn't been without great difficulty. My body is just not working well. I have some preliminary information about my MRI result, but will share that with you as I learn more details. I've decided that no matter what happens, I will do what I want to do. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength! (Phil. 4:13)
So, strangers, nosy rosies, busybodies, or for my caring friends, I will talk to you later!!
My oldest daughter played her first Volleyball game on my birthday. She's really good! Of course, #17 here wasn't so shabby either! Guess the genes are good for more than just beauty. Oh, I am snarkin' on you tonight! She played most of the game and fell asleep in the car on the way to KFC. Oh, yes. We celebrate with chicken around here. We are very fancy people.
School has gotten off to a great start for both girls. Serena came home from her first day and said, "Mom, I love love love Mrs. LeFevre!! She's great! She's funny, she's cool, etc...". Truly, she's right. Those 5th and 6th grade teachers are the best, if you ask me. All we had to do was make it through one bad year, and now we're set. Any apprehensions we had before school started have been resolved. And Who do you think was responsible for that?? It is clear to me now what God is trying to do. And what He is doing needs to be done right where she's at. I've always been a firm, strong believer in having Christian kids in our school system. When I was in school, it was the Christian kids who talked to the kids no one else would talk to. It was the Christian kid who invited people to church. It was the Christian kid who prayed with you when you cut your arm on a glass door. I had forgotten all of that and got wrapped up in my own desires to "protect" my kids. The fact is, my kids are probably there for someone else in the first place, just like those kids from my past were there for me! Ding...went the loud bell in my head as I would pray about this. I will say that this was my answer. Maybe your answer was something else. It's a comfort to know that God's answers are tailored individually for each of us! That just means He is listening and working it all out!
Natalie loves 7th grade. Loves Ms. Pitchford, the principal, and yes, she is fabulous, I must agree! She runs a tight ship and it shows! Pastor Shannon comes to the school at lunch and not only leads prayer, but has his lunch there just so he can interact with those kids. Not just the Christian kids, but ALL of them! Natalie has several of her friends praying with her at the flagpole in front of the school, and she is just ecstatic about it. The teachers are plugged in, interested in the kids, and make learning fun. Natalie still loves band with the cool Mr. Burkhart, and is enjoying her first season of Volleyball.
I guess what I am most happy about is that they have a passion for learning, for practicing what they know about Christ, for trying new things, and for having good attitudes! It makes my job so much easier!
Speaking of my job, I have been busy painting bedrooms! Serena's is first, then I'll move to Natalie's. The kitchen will be next. I have a lot of organizational jobs to start as well. This house will be ship shape in no time.
I'm not in ship shape, however. Although I've been painting, it hasn't been without great difficulty. My body is just not working well. I have some preliminary information about my MRI result, but will share that with you as I learn more details. I've decided that no matter what happens, I will do what I want to do. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength! (Phil. 4:13)
So, strangers, nosy rosies, busybodies, or for my caring friends, I will talk to you later!!
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Happy Trails to You...
Until we meet again. Yup, I'm taking a break from my blog. I am getting busy with school stuff, for one thing, but for another, I don't know who is reading it anymore, and that makes me a bit nervous. My family doesn't read it. Friends I've had for years don't read it. Makes me sort of wonder who I'm pouring my thoughts out to, and who is reading the details of my life. Is it doing any good? Well, if I have to ask, then probably not. Believe it or not, I have very few close friends on Facebook. Not to be rude, but why would they care about what I'm doing anyway? Maybe it's just me and my natural private nature. If people don't say hello to you in the street, if they don't call you, they don't email you, then why would they care to "friend" you on Facebook? The million dollar question to me. I think they're just nosy. Or lazy. Or phony. Yes. You will miss my honest snarkiness. Then again, maybe not. I don't know you. Or do I?
So, I'm going to give myself a nice long break, focus on doing some projects around here, and stay busy running kids here and there. If there's anything else to report, you might just here it right from the horse's mouth. Or not. Who really knows? My life really isn't all that exciting, as you may have noticed. Two years of blogging and 4 followers should tell you that.
Bum Ba Dee Da Dum......Until we meet a----gain!!
So, I'm going to give myself a nice long break, focus on doing some projects around here, and stay busy running kids here and there. If there's anything else to report, you might just here it right from the horse's mouth. Or not. Who really knows? My life really isn't all that exciting, as you may have noticed. Two years of blogging and 4 followers should tell you that.
Bum Ba Dee Da Dum......Until we meet a----gain!!
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Spinning and Crashing in Peace
Sometimes life feels like a car hydroplaning on a road in the middle of the night. You're skidding sideways, spinning around, then slowly you stop. You're either going in the same direction, facing an entirely different direction, or you're totally confused as to where you are altogether. If you're lucky, you didn't hit anything and you didn't pee your pants along the way. Then there are the days you actually crash. Not good days.
I've had a lot of spinning days lately. We have been so caught up in going from one thing to another, each one requiring me to dig deep for something, whether it's extra money for something, extra energy, extra time, extra patience, or a little sanity. I am really really tired.
My dear old dog of 14 cuddly years has been having a rough time adjusting to elderly life. She's shaky, tired, needs constant attention, and she doesn't always sleep well. She sometimes goes potty while she's still lying down, then she can't get up. Forget what this is doing to my back, my house, my sleep. I am slowly losing my precious best friend. This stresses me out to no end. I couldn't care less about getting dog poo on me anymore. I just love her too much to care.
Natalie is at youth retreat this week. Her first time away from home for 5 long days. I'm losing my little girl as well. At least that's how it feels. She's going away to Junior High this year. No more room mom duty for me. It's a whole new life for both of us. Did I mention I have a hard time with change? I miss my girl.
Serena has wanted to leave her school for the past two years, and we can't afford to send her where I would like to send her. I'm not looking forward to starting a new year for the second year in a row. Serena has seemed to get the short end of the stick in a lot of areas where Nat was blessed. It is sad, and yet I am without guidance as to what to do. I've been praying about it for so long, and I don't feel peace about it yet. It's so confusing. My job is to protect her, to do my absolute best to provide what she needs. Not so she's happy, but that she's getting what is good for her. Home schooling is not an option for me. I can't be consistent when my health is all over the place. Sometimes I am in a corner, yelling to get out.
There has been little relief with my PT these days, and I will be going to the next step of finding out what is causing all the trouble. It is frustrating to have followed all the rules, missed out on countless activities with my kids, and I still don't feel right. I'm getting tired of feeling trapped.
My brother will be released from re-hab soon. I fear he is not ready. I fear for what happens next. I fear for what it means for his life and his family. Again. There are no clear answers, no promises, no assurances. It scares us all.
You may arrive at some incorrect conclusions as you read this. No, I am not depressed. I am not sad. I am not losing my mind or my faith. I feel joy every day. I feel gratitude every day. I pray and thank the Lord every day. But if I told you my life was perfect and I only told you the "good stuff", my life would be a story book to you. I don't know about you, but I learn very little from those "happy ending" books. I learn from the pain of others more than anything. I wouldn't know the wisdom of an overcomer if they hadn't been through pain first and then shared it with me. They inspire me, not the Suzy happy drawers types.
You are not alone, whether you are spinning or crashing. God is there for the good and the bad, and this world is not supposed to keep us comfortable or happy. As long as we are here, bad stuff is going to happen. I choose to love my life anyway because God gave me a life, and I will enjoy it for His Glory. Not mine.
Whatever happens is supposed to happen, but I don't have to like it! I don't have to smile through it if I feel like crying. It hurts! I can be real. And I can be grateful all at the same time.
Peace to you in all your life's spins and crashes!
I've had a lot of spinning days lately. We have been so caught up in going from one thing to another, each one requiring me to dig deep for something, whether it's extra money for something, extra energy, extra time, extra patience, or a little sanity. I am really really tired.
My dear old dog of 14 cuddly years has been having a rough time adjusting to elderly life. She's shaky, tired, needs constant attention, and she doesn't always sleep well. She sometimes goes potty while she's still lying down, then she can't get up. Forget what this is doing to my back, my house, my sleep. I am slowly losing my precious best friend. This stresses me out to no end. I couldn't care less about getting dog poo on me anymore. I just love her too much to care.
Natalie is at youth retreat this week. Her first time away from home for 5 long days. I'm losing my little girl as well. At least that's how it feels. She's going away to Junior High this year. No more room mom duty for me. It's a whole new life for both of us. Did I mention I have a hard time with change? I miss my girl.
Serena has wanted to leave her school for the past two years, and we can't afford to send her where I would like to send her. I'm not looking forward to starting a new year for the second year in a row. Serena has seemed to get the short end of the stick in a lot of areas where Nat was blessed. It is sad, and yet I am without guidance as to what to do. I've been praying about it for so long, and I don't feel peace about it yet. It's so confusing. My job is to protect her, to do my absolute best to provide what she needs. Not so she's happy, but that she's getting what is good for her. Home schooling is not an option for me. I can't be consistent when my health is all over the place. Sometimes I am in a corner, yelling to get out.
There has been little relief with my PT these days, and I will be going to the next step of finding out what is causing all the trouble. It is frustrating to have followed all the rules, missed out on countless activities with my kids, and I still don't feel right. I'm getting tired of feeling trapped.
My brother will be released from re-hab soon. I fear he is not ready. I fear for what happens next. I fear for what it means for his life and his family. Again. There are no clear answers, no promises, no assurances. It scares us all.
You may arrive at some incorrect conclusions as you read this. No, I am not depressed. I am not sad. I am not losing my mind or my faith. I feel joy every day. I feel gratitude every day. I pray and thank the Lord every day. But if I told you my life was perfect and I only told you the "good stuff", my life would be a story book to you. I don't know about you, but I learn very little from those "happy ending" books. I learn from the pain of others more than anything. I wouldn't know the wisdom of an overcomer if they hadn't been through pain first and then shared it with me. They inspire me, not the Suzy happy drawers types.
You are not alone, whether you are spinning or crashing. God is there for the good and the bad, and this world is not supposed to keep us comfortable or happy. As long as we are here, bad stuff is going to happen. I choose to love my life anyway because God gave me a life, and I will enjoy it for His Glory. Not mine.
Whatever happens is supposed to happen, but I don't have to like it! I don't have to smile through it if I feel like crying. It hurts! I can be real. And I can be grateful all at the same time.
Peace to you in all your life's spins and crashes!
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Envy
It's a bit green...it's human.....it's........ENVY!
"ENVY IS THE ART OF COUNTING THE OTHER FELLOW'S BLESSINGS INSTEAD OF YOUR OWN" - Harold Coffin (wow...what a last name, eh??)
Isn't that the truth? If you're too busy wanting what someone else has, you don't even see what you have! When we were building our home back in '04 and '05, I was obviously excited every time a shipment came in. One day some cabinets came in while someone was visiting. I eagerly opened the box and said, "hey, check these out." She reluctantly looked at them, said not a word, and that was that. Over the course of the next few months, it became clear that that person was not happy for us. She became critical of our decision to build a house. Okay, so you didn't like the idea....be happy for me anyway! That's a friend, right?? Not if envy gets in the way.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not miss Suzy Perfect Pants. I've had my own issues with envy...like those working moms with all the cute clothes!! All those trips to Disney that double income families take....people with awesome in-laws who love them! I too could get caught up in all of that if I take my eyes off the blessings I already have...
1. The privilege of staying home, no matter the sacrifice (trips and clothes)
2. A great set of parents, awesome husband, loving kids, great friends who are like family (perfect in-laws are overrated)
3. A family cottage, camper, and a woodsy backyard.(Who needs Mickey Mouse anyway?)
Why would envy be such a problem if you're so happy in your own life? I think one of the reasons is that we walk around hoping and dreaming for that one thing that will "complete" us, whether we think it's the job, the kids, the house, the car, the love of family, etc...But what really completes us is having God at the center of our lives. If we don't focus on Him or His blessings that He has already given us, we become self-centered...too worried about what everyone else has. Then we become spiteful, bitter, angry, jealous. Kinda hard to walk around joyfully blessed when you're in that state of mind!
And yet, we've all been there at one time or another. Forgetting Who is in control. Forgetting Who has blessed us with exactly what He wants us to have and at the time He planned them for us. Forgetting that by putting others ahead of ourselves, we will be happy for them no matter what they have when we don't have it yet!! We have to have faith that if it's meant for us, God will bring it to us at the right time. In other words, we can't go around whining about what someone else got! It just keeps the blessings from yourself even longer!
Be happy for your friends when they get what you've been waiting for. God will shine on you and bless you for your genuine love for that friend. And if you're hurting over the one thing you've always wanted and didn't get, maybe it's because there is something even bigger and better in store for you!!
And to all of you Disney goers, please bring me back some Mickey ears next time, ok?? I'll think of you every time I wear them! And I'll want to hear all about your trip! :)
"ENVY IS THE ART OF COUNTING THE OTHER FELLOW'S BLESSINGS INSTEAD OF YOUR OWN" - Harold Coffin (wow...what a last name, eh??)
Isn't that the truth? If you're too busy wanting what someone else has, you don't even see what you have! When we were building our home back in '04 and '05, I was obviously excited every time a shipment came in. One day some cabinets came in while someone was visiting. I eagerly opened the box and said, "hey, check these out." She reluctantly looked at them, said not a word, and that was that. Over the course of the next few months, it became clear that that person was not happy for us. She became critical of our decision to build a house. Okay, so you didn't like the idea....be happy for me anyway! That's a friend, right?? Not if envy gets in the way.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not miss Suzy Perfect Pants. I've had my own issues with envy...like those working moms with all the cute clothes!! All those trips to Disney that double income families take....people with awesome in-laws who love them! I too could get caught up in all of that if I take my eyes off the blessings I already have...
1. The privilege of staying home, no matter the sacrifice (trips and clothes)
2. A great set of parents, awesome husband, loving kids, great friends who are like family (perfect in-laws are overrated)
3. A family cottage, camper, and a woodsy backyard.(Who needs Mickey Mouse anyway?)
Why would envy be such a problem if you're so happy in your own life? I think one of the reasons is that we walk around hoping and dreaming for that one thing that will "complete" us, whether we think it's the job, the kids, the house, the car, the love of family, etc...But what really completes us is having God at the center of our lives. If we don't focus on Him or His blessings that He has already given us, we become self-centered...too worried about what everyone else has. Then we become spiteful, bitter, angry, jealous. Kinda hard to walk around joyfully blessed when you're in that state of mind!
And yet, we've all been there at one time or another. Forgetting Who is in control. Forgetting Who has blessed us with exactly what He wants us to have and at the time He planned them for us. Forgetting that by putting others ahead of ourselves, we will be happy for them no matter what they have when we don't have it yet!! We have to have faith that if it's meant for us, God will bring it to us at the right time. In other words, we can't go around whining about what someone else got! It just keeps the blessings from yourself even longer!
Be happy for your friends when they get what you've been waiting for. God will shine on you and bless you for your genuine love for that friend. And if you're hurting over the one thing you've always wanted and didn't get, maybe it's because there is something even bigger and better in store for you!!
And to all of you Disney goers, please bring me back some Mickey ears next time, ok?? I'll think of you every time I wear them! And I'll want to hear all about your trip! :)