Valuable Valentines

I'm always trying to get my two cents in with some of my friends' husbands who are, shall we say, a little less than romantic. Some men are just not naturally romantic or thoughtful. We women have to plant seeds and then shake the soil up a bit to get it growing! I also believe women need to help each other when it comes to asking for what they need from their hubbies. Some women are just afraid to let them know they want a hug every day. I say if you want a hug every day, go out there and just get it! If he cringes, so what! Give him about 40 hugs until he softens up. You can't give up on those men who just don't get it. You have to keep trying! If he's selfish, well, that's a whole different thing, but if you love him when he's kind, you love him when he's being selfish too. Remember, we're not the perfect wives either! :)

My advice is always simple: open the car doors for her, lock them before she tries to open her own door if you have to. Rub her shoulders and do a good job of it! Wash the dishes now and then, run the vacuum if you really want to impress her, wash her car and leave a love note on the dash! Offer to watch the kids so she can relax awhile by herself. Look into her eyes...really look at her and tell her how much you appreciate her! Tell her she's beautiful, fill her car up with gas and leave a coke (or other favorite drink) in the beverage holder, bring home takeout so she doesn't have to cook, ask her what movie SHE wants to see and then watch it with her, put her first! Tell a friend "no", you can't go with them tonight....you want to spend time with her and her alone! (only very secure men can handle that one) Call her just to say you're thinking of her. Emails and texts are nice, but voices are so much better! Come home from work early or take a vacation day just to hang out with her, offer to run the errands, do the shopping once in awhile, hold her hand! Hug her every day and let her know she is number one in your life! Oh, and a really good one....give her the remote!!

I can tell you these things are foolproof and valuable, because these are some of the ways my husband shows his love for me. He doesn't have to do them all or all the time, just like I don't do everything perfect just for him all the time, but we do put each other first. When you do that, kindness comes naturally.

If you're a candy and flowers or jewelry kind of recipient and you're happy with that, that's good, but I don't happen to want any of those things for Valentine's Day or any other day. I just want real showings of love and attention, and I think most women would agree! I mean, not that I would turn down any of those things, but if a guy thinks that is going to solve it all or makes up for his lack of attention, we girls will fade away just like candy and flowers! WEll, candy kind of sticks around on the hips, if you know what I mean.

Oh, and if you don't happen to have a significant other for Valentine's Day, love the ones you're with! Moms, Dads, Grandparents, friends, kids, and other family. Someone suggested making Valentines for nursing home residents and the veterans....such a good idea! Who doesn't need a little extra love in their lives?

So guys, if you're listening, or your love printed this out and left it on the toilet seat in the bathroom where you hide for an hour each day, if you get anything valuable out of this, get this.....your job as a husband is to love her as much as humanly possible and to show her that love. When you do any of the things above out of love, you will be blessed even more by her. We won't get into too much detail, but a man doing dishes...hubba hubba! :)

Happy Valentine's Day, all you giggling girls!