Tears

I spent the day preparing my oldest daughter for what I felt was a possibility-a breakup. And sure enough, that's what happened. Her first real breakup, and I think my heart was breaking right alongside hers. 

It brought back my own painful teenage break ups, one in particular that was particularly hard to shake. 

I told her the story of how I pleaded with God to just let me have the man I loved! Bring him back to me!  I bargained and promised and prayed...and God said a resounding NO!! 

How do I know this? Because for some weird reason I kept missing all of his calls and he missed mine. (Before cells, caller ID, and even machines!) Every attempt to be where he was fell apart for some strange reason. At the time I just couldn't explain it. As I learned more about God, I began to understand that it was His answer. He was saying, "he is not the one I have set apart for you, no not even to date! No, I do not want you in his company. He is not good for you. He is not honorable or faithful and not who I want for you!" He said "no". 

I got the man I loved. It's just not the man I thought it would be! Had I done things in my own flesh...oh boy, what a mess that would have been!  Now, obviously my daughter is not looking for a husband, but dating is practice. Maybe this was also a "no", as maybe the relationship was not what God wants for her right now. 

It still hurts, and so daddy walked through the door with a big teddy bear and some flowers, and spent some time talking with her. One of her youth staff stopped by with a care package and some hugs to lift her spirits as well. Her sister and I sat with her all afternoon, resisting the urge to maim the offending boy!  More importantly reminding her of how valuable she is to us. 

Bottom line is-we are raising a great girl with high standards and high morals. We are raising her to honor herself and respect herself. She has done that. She now asks where are the boys who are being raised the same? Good question. Where are they? God knows and is preparing him as we speak. It might just take awhile. It is truly hard to raise good girls in a hard world with a lot of loose morals and standards. 

If our sweet girl crosses your mind, please lift her up in prayer.  Thank you...